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Botany

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35. You didn't let her down. You did the right thing. She is in no pain and is not suffering.
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 10:22 AM
18 hrs ago

Last edited Sat Dec 13, 2025, 08:32 PM - Edit history (1)

The ashes will be in metal box and can be dealt with whenever. No need to dig a deep grave
they can be scattered in a garden, along a path you used to walk along, or in a park you used to
to go to. Don’t beat yourself up. She is gone but will live on in your heart.

A sad but simple truth the more you guys loved each other the more you will hurt and that is
O.K.. BTW when they return her ashes do not go for any upselling of urns and such if necessary
have a friend there who can say no.

Check with your vet I am sure there are pet grief groups around you area and maybe a pet shelter
might need somebody like you to spend time their dogs.

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Call your vet & get her body back SheltieLover 20 hrs ago #27
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It is very hard to say goodbye to a family member LetMyPeopleVote 18 hrs ago #34
You didn't let her down. You did the right thing. She is in no pain and is not suffering. Botany 18 hrs ago #35
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