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frogstar0

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17. We lost our Pheobe a year and a half ago.....

Sat Dec 13, 2025, 07:24 AM

21 hrs ago

And I still think of her often. Please don't beat yourself up over what you do with her body, she does not really care.
You loved her and that is what she knew. Do something when the ashes come back.
Maybe whoever else she was important to whatever, there is no 'right or correct' way to grieve.
Writing this I have tears in my eyes for our girl, for your girl and for you.
You are honoring her with this post asking for you fellow DUers for help, for community.
We also just lost one of our cats 2 weeks ago. So this is raw for me for that reason too.
You gave her love and a good life, you have not let her down in any way.

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Anybody here tonight? We lost our sweet baby girl dog on Wednesday. [View all] Silver Gaia 23 hrs ago OP

Hugs to you. Duncanpup 23 hrs ago #1

Thank you for the hugs. Silver Gaia 23 hrs ago #2

I'm here for you, Gaia SheltieLover 22 hrs ago #3

Thank you so much, Sheltie! Silver Gaia 21 hrs ago #15

So happy to have been able to ease your suffering a bit, Gaia SheltieLover 20 hrs ago #26

So sorry I hope you get this resolved and possibly get another pet friend. I know it's impossible to Replace loved one Walleye 22 hrs ago #4

Thank you for your kind words. Silver Gaia 21 hrs ago #16

I'm sorry you have lost your girl Dr. Shepper 22 hrs ago #5

Thank you for this post, Dr. Shepper. Silver Gaia 21 hrs ago #19

Call your vet & get her body back SheltieLover 20 hrs ago #27

Hugs EverHopeful 22 hrs ago #6

Thank you, EverHopeful. Silver Gaia 21 hrs ago #20

My husband's cat (his bestie next to me) tavernier 22 hrs ago #7

Thank you for sharing your story, tavernier. Silver Gaia 21 hrs ago #21

so very sorry, Silver Gaia Skittles 22 hrs ago #8

Thank you for sharing the poem, Skittles. Silver Gaia 21 hrs ago #22

i am so sorry you're going through this. orleans 22 hrs ago #9

Thank you, orleans. Silver Gaia 32 min ago #44

Just woke up and saw this and I cannnot express how much I do feel for you. All here have undoubtedly hlthe2b 22 hrs ago #10

Yes, Fionna was the puppy who healed the hole in my heart Silver Gaia 27 min ago #45

So very sorry, Gaia gademocrat7 22 hrs ago #11

Thank you, gademocrat7. Silver Gaia 26 min ago #46

I'm so sorry for your loss. iemanja 21 hrs ago #12

Yes, I will begin planning this tomorrow. Silver Gaia 25 min ago #47

Very sorry for your loss Deminpenn 21 hrs ago #13

Thank you for sharing your experiences, Deminpenn. Silver Gaia 24 min ago #48

Sadly, there's not much you can do to change the outcome. It's the cycle of life. Time will make it easier to bear, Vinca 21 hrs ago #14

Thank you, Vinca. Silver Gaia 23 min ago #49

We lost our Pheobe a year and a half ago..... frogstar0 21 hrs ago #17

I'm so sorry I made you cry! But your words brought tears back to my eyes as well. Silver Gaia 19 min ago #50

Lost your dog lhatcher2 21 hrs ago #18

Welcome to DU LetMyPeopleVote 17 hrs ago #36

Welcome to DU. It's nice to see you here, filled with compassion. NNadir 16 hrs ago #38

what a lovely first post Skittles 13 hrs ago #41

I am honored that you chose this to be your very fist post on DU. Silver Gaia 35 min ago #43

So sorry for your loss, Gaia paxmoki 20 hrs ago #23

Thank you for your kindness, paxmoki. Silver Gaia 17 min ago #51

I'm so sorry. I know how you feel. ... littlemissmartypants 20 hrs ago #24

Thank you. I am so sorry that you are grieving, too. Silver Gaia 15 min ago #52

Thank you all so very, very much. Silver Gaia 20 hrs ago #25

Hope you get a good sleep. 70sEraVet 20 hrs ago #29

I did sleep eventually. It was deep and long. Silver Gaia 12 min ago #53

Sending loving kindness and compassion to you LatteLady 20 hrs ago #28

Thank you so much for your sweet, caring words. Silver Gaia 9 min ago #54

condolences pfitz59 20 hrs ago #30

Yes, they are. Very much so. Silver Gaia 8 min ago #55

Hugs I'm so sorry for your loss. I have never waited more than 7 days for the return of ashes. I prefer cremation sinkingfeeling 19 hrs ago #31

Thank you for the hugs. Silver Gaia 7 min ago #56

This happened to me years ago, but I know my little doggie was with me in spirit by my side. Irish_Dem 19 hrs ago #32

Lady of the Beasts, please take Your little Fionna gently home in Your niyad 19 hrs ago #33

It is very hard to say goodbye to a family member LetMyPeopleVote 18 hrs ago #34

You didn't let her down. You did the right thing. She is in no pain and is not suffering. Botany 18 hrs ago #35

So sorry for your loss. applegrove 16 hrs ago #37

Care for the living Dear_Prudence 16 hrs ago #39

You lost a dear family member and I'm so sorry for your loss berniesandersmittens 13 hrs ago #40

My Deepest Thanks to All of You Who Posted Here Last Night Silver Gaia 41 min ago #42