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Neoma

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18. If the person in question hasn't tried to become a better person, then it's not worth it.

Mon Dec 30, 2013, 01:11 PM

Dec 2013

If they still treat you like crap, there's simply no use in forgiving when they're still toxic. Distancing yourself and soothing out yourself from what happened to you is probably the way to go.

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This message was self-deleted by its author [View all] Tobin S. Oct 2013 OP

This message was self-deleted by its author libodem Oct 2013 #1

No, and I don't think I can. elleng Oct 2013 #2

That's okay, ellen Tobin S. Oct 2013 #5

Thanks, Tobin. elleng Oct 2013 #7

Bitter is my middle name now. Denninmi Oct 2013 #3

Maybe so Tobin S. Oct 2013 #6

If holding a grudge bothers you, yes. Otherwise...not so much. HereSince1628 Oct 2013 #4

It depends on what you mean by forgiveness. easttexaslefty Oct 2013 #8

I agree. I forgive for me TexasBushwhacker Oct 2013 #11

understanding maybe mopinko Oct 2013 #9

Yes, it's crucial BainsBane Oct 2013 #10

Ditto ifyousayso Dec 2013 #12

I have tried and I can't. Wish I could. But it's not happening. n/t auntAgonist Dec 2013 #13

It's something you do for yourself, not others. hunter Dec 2013 #14

The only person I have had trouble forgiving is my mother's No Vested Interest Dec 2013 #15

It may not be necessary or even possible to forgive. Tobin S. Dec 2013 #16

You are , of course, correct, Tobin. No Vested Interest Dec 2013 #17

If the person in question hasn't tried to become a better person, then it's not worth it. Neoma Dec 2013 #18