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TexasBushwhacker

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11. I agree. I forgive for me

Reply to easttexaslefty (Reply #8)

Tue Oct 29, 2013, 08:19 PM

Oct 2013

because I think holding a grudge against the offender hurts me more than it hurts them. However, I do not forget what they did (or didn't) do and I don't trust them.

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This message was self-deleted by its author libodem Oct 2013 #1

No, and I don't think I can. elleng Oct 2013 #2

That's okay, ellen Tobin S. Oct 2013 #5

Thanks, Tobin. elleng Oct 2013 #7

Bitter is my middle name now. Denninmi Oct 2013 #3

Maybe so Tobin S. Oct 2013 #6

If holding a grudge bothers you, yes. Otherwise...not so much. HereSince1628 Oct 2013 #4

It depends on what you mean by forgiveness. easttexaslefty Oct 2013 #8

I agree. I forgive for me TexasBushwhacker Oct 2013 #11

understanding maybe mopinko Oct 2013 #9

Yes, it's crucial BainsBane Oct 2013 #10

Ditto ifyousayso Dec 2013 #12

I have tried and I can't. Wish I could. But it's not happening. n/t auntAgonist Dec 2013 #13

It's something you do for yourself, not others. hunter Dec 2013 #14

The only person I have had trouble forgiving is my mother's No Vested Interest Dec 2013 #15

It may not be necessary or even possible to forgive. Tobin S. Dec 2013 #16

You are , of course, correct, Tobin. No Vested Interest Dec 2013 #17

If the person in question hasn't tried to become a better person, then it's not worth it. Neoma Dec 2013 #18