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FirstLight

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18. Part of the issue is that they're between California and Nevada right now and they moved from Kansas
Sat Jan 18, 2025, 07:23 PM
Jan 18

If she leaves him, she could effectively go to the El Dorado county here in California and try to get shelter or something but I don't even know if that's available cuz we're so rural. He's got a job in Reno they're looking for an apartment in Carson I don't know what else to do or who to contact at this point and calling the sheriff seems like a drastic measure. I know the child missed her last immunizations they told me that themselves she's going to be too in March and she's not talking very much either because they don't spend the time with her it breaks my heart...

He is not the father she left the abusive ex when the baby was 2 months old he still back in Kansas. I have no idea what that story is. If she breaks up with him she'll probably want to go back to Kansas and live with her meth mother which is even worse. Or her jailbird deadbeat dad. That's how fucked up her family is.

All I know how to do is try to clear my own space and my own head. I don't even have another therapy appointment until Wednesday so I'm sitting here with all of this in my own belly. I am in no condition to deal with any of it but I also know that calling anybody on Monday won't result in any movement or action and if anybody comes to my house I'm going to end up getting in trouble for just housing them probably I don't know

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Those people are "abusers" and they are ... Tarzanrock Jan 18 #1
oh, you make it sound so easy. FirstLight Jan 18 #4
The issue is not your son ... Tarzanrock Jan 18 #10
Number one, his job is supposed to start this week FirstLight Jan 18 #12
I wish all of you the best... Think. Again. Jan 18 #2
I have a LOT of insight into this whole family's generational trauma. And have been really working HARD with my therapis FirstLight Jan 18 #3
I'm glad to hear you're working with a therapist... Think. Again. Jan 18 #5
I wish for your sake that you had an impartial extended family member or friend to play intermediary... hlthe2b Jan 18 #6
I haven't been drinking! I only had the thought... and I am resolute. FirstLight Jan 18 #7
Well... We care. Hang in there! hlthe2b Jan 18 #8
Kick them out. PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 18 #9
I totally agree. Tarzanrock Jan 18 #11
Well thanks now I feel even worse. FirstLight Jan 18 #13
Doing what's right is difficult. MotownPgh Jan 18 #16
I'm in L.A. County, CA Tarzanrock Jan 18 #14
I hope it all works out. You must be your first priority. LoisB Jan 18 #15
The County Department of Public Social Services here in California ... Tarzanrock Jan 18 #17
Part of the issue is that they're between California and Nevada right now and they moved from Kansas FirstLight Jan 18 #18
A little California law ... Tarzanrock Jan 18 #19
I texted her and told her that I'm worried for her and her baby safety FirstLight Jan 18 #20
She says she's not being abused and the baby's fine. FirstLight Jan 18 #21
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