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Tarzanrock

(576 posts)
14. I'm in L.A. County, CA
Sat Jan 18, 2025, 06:10 PM
Jan 18

I don't know what county in California you are in. Get help. This isn't your cross to carry nor is it your burden to support these irresponsible adult people with that infant. There are statutes and laws in California which affirmatively protect infants like this one who have irresponsible people improperly caring for that infant's welfare. Your county's Department of Public Social Services will deal with these issues. If that woman is not responsible enough to make the Father of that infant pay his responsible share of child support for that infant, the county attorney in your county will enforce those payments against that deadbeat Father. You need to get these deadbeat people out of your house -- the sooner, the better -- if they don't voluntarily leave, you need to take affirmative action. It begins by contactng the country child welfare offices and the county attorney if these irresponsible people continue to act irresponsibly and inappropriately. As I said earlier -- this is a problem for the social services -- it is not your problem and making it your problem only compounds the problem and exacerbates it as you are not financially capable of effectively dealing with it and properly resolving it. Moveover, this problem will continue and fester and get worse until something is, in fact, done about it. These people will do nothing to resolve it until the State of California forces them to act and even then, they may not act, thus forcing the State to remove that infant from their negligent care.

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Those people are "abusers" and they are ... Tarzanrock Jan 18 #1
oh, you make it sound so easy. FirstLight Jan 18 #4
The issue is not your son ... Tarzanrock Jan 18 #10
Number one, his job is supposed to start this week FirstLight Jan 18 #12
I wish all of you the best... Think. Again. Jan 18 #2
I have a LOT of insight into this whole family's generational trauma. And have been really working HARD with my therapis FirstLight Jan 18 #3
I'm glad to hear you're working with a therapist... Think. Again. Jan 18 #5
I wish for your sake that you had an impartial extended family member or friend to play intermediary... hlthe2b Jan 18 #6
I haven't been drinking! I only had the thought... and I am resolute. FirstLight Jan 18 #7
Well... We care. Hang in there! hlthe2b Jan 18 #8
Kick them out. PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 18 #9
I totally agree. Tarzanrock Jan 18 #11
Well thanks now I feel even worse. FirstLight Jan 18 #13
Doing what's right is difficult. MotownPgh Jan 18 #16
I'm in L.A. County, CA Tarzanrock Jan 18 #14
I hope it all works out. You must be your first priority. LoisB Jan 18 #15
The County Department of Public Social Services here in California ... Tarzanrock Jan 18 #17
Part of the issue is that they're between California and Nevada right now and they moved from Kansas FirstLight Jan 18 #18
A little California law ... Tarzanrock Jan 18 #19
I texted her and told her that I'm worried for her and her baby safety FirstLight Jan 18 #20
She says she's not being abused and the baby's fine. FirstLight Jan 18 #21
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