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ShazzieB

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Tue Dec 16, 2025, 04:02 PM

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The first I ever knew of visitation stones was the final scene of Schindler's List, where the remaining Holocaust survivors that Oskar Schindler saved visit his grave, each leaving a stone on it. It was a very moving scene, but I was baffled by the stones, because I had never heard of that custom. Later on, after I found out what the stones meant, I had a whole new appreciation of the scene.

Sorry for the tangent, but I can't think of visitation stones without thinking of that scene in Schindler's List.

I will miss elleng very, very much.

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Do we have a fund going for sending flowers? Bayard Tuesday #1

Not sure hermetic Tuesday #2

I'd contribute! n/t intheflow Tuesday #6

Consider this: I believe She's Jewish. Flowers are not typical. It might Ilsa Tuesday #10

Maybe Ellen was involved with one of the bird/wildlife sanctuaries in her area ... Donkees Tuesday #12

I suspect that could be true. I think her cemetery might be Ilsa Tuesday #15

I think planting trees is a Jewish custom catrose Tuesday #38

Great idea! SheltieLover Wednesday #52

Ellen was the most passionate goodwill ambassador on behalf of ospreys I have ever met Donkees Wednesday #62

Absolutely! And I will forever cherish her daily pix the Spring they nested in her yard. SheltieLover Wednesday #64

We had flowers barbtries Tuesday #32

I'm Jewish, raised conservative. Grumpy Old Guy Tuesday #40

I attended a Conservative Jewish funeral earlier this year. Ilsa Wednesday #43

The family can always use postage stamps. My Emile Tuesday #41

The family isn't using a Jewish funeral home so they wouldn't be likely to object to flowers. hedda_foil Tuesday #30

I couldn't find her name on the funeral home's website. Ilsa Wednesday #44

I couldnt find her funeral announcement or obituary either. hedda_foil Wednesday #50

My thoughts will be with her family and friends... hlthe2b Tuesday #3

Several of her posts mentioned having to deal with hydrocephalus and surgery. Donkees Tuesday #5

Oh, my. I had not seen those posts.... hlthe2b Tuesday #7

I think the last time she mentioned the shunt was earlier this year. Donkees Tuesday #8

Thank you for the information... markie Tuesday #4

I am still in shock. I don't believe what I am reading. Irish_Dem Tuesday #9

That's what I thought as well PatSeg Wednesday #47

yes Irish_Dem Wednesday #51

... orangecrush Tuesday #11

elleng was a valued presence here. ancianita Tuesday #13

... Aristus Tuesday #14

Rest in peace, dear Ellen fierywoman Tuesday #16

From Wikipedia nitpicked Tuesday #17

what a beautiful tradition! samnsara Tuesday #26

Flowers will die or wilt but stones will not. debm55 Tuesday #33

Thanks for this. ShazzieB Tuesday #28

Jewish headstones are not raised and dedicated until the one year anniversary of the death (Hebrew calendar) hedda_foil Tuesday #29

I like that! calimary Wednesday #48

Will miss her posts montanacowboy Tuesday #18

💧 littlemissmartypants Tuesday #19

"" AllaN01Bear Tuesday #20

I would like to send a card if anyone has the info Phentex Tuesday #21

..... Trailrider1951 Tuesday #22

"I have fought the good fight, I have finished the course, I have kept the faith". RIP /nt artemisia1 Tuesday #23

I'm sad to hear this news Renew Deal Tuesday #24

... Permanut Tuesday #25

can't find her obit on that funeral home website nt orleans Tuesday #27

Do we have a link to an online obituary? QueerDuck Tuesday #31

I'll miss her weather reports from the DC area. BigmanPigman Tuesday #34

I do too, my dear. Hang in there. Scrivener7 Tuesday #35

It has been that kind of week so far PatSeg Wednesday #46

I'm running out of tissues BigmanPigman Wednesday #58

"Have a tolerable Christmas and may you survive the New Year"? PatSeg Wednesday #59

Last year I had to re-do my 2016 Xmas card. BigmanPigman Wednesday #60

Oh, how clever! PatSeg Wednesday #61

Everybody liked it except BigmanPigman Wednesday #63

Whoa! PatSeg Wednesday #66

RIP Ellen jfz9580m Tuesday #36

Geez, I'm truly shocked. I did not know she passed. OAITW r.2.0 Tuesday #37

It would be nice if we each had a moment of silence Grim Chieftain Tuesday #39

oh no....I am so sorry .... peacebuzzard Tuesday #42

I didn't know either PatSeg Wednesday #45

Sometime in the past two years, I think, she was alerting on these pages about a brain diagnosis question everything Wednesday #49

I remember her talking about a procedure PatSeg Wednesday #53

What is sad is that as recently as Dec. 12 she posted on her Facebook question everything Wednesday #54

Yes, I didn't see any indication PatSeg Wednesday #57

I will miss her. MontanaMama Wednesday #55

RIP, elleng Sogo Wednesday #56

🕯 Dorothy V Wednesday #65