I remember someone mentioning that a few days ago but can't recall who or find it again. But then I saw her daughter posted the info on FB so thought I would share it, in hopes that person would see it.

be better to send food, a kosher gift item, for shivah or any other gathering after the burial. I'll see what I can find out.

The funeral home should have more details.

Some of those involved in building/maintaining Osprey Nesting Platforms.

all natural, green burial. I think she would have appreciated anything like what you mentioned.

I know Ellen would appreciate this and I am convinced she is now soaring with her beloved Ospery!

She was a triple exclamation point person

at Bekah's funeral, which was officiated by a rabbi. But maybe it's only because her mother (ie, me) was a shiksa and this was in CA. I hope my ex-MIL was not offended by that.

I never knew that flowers at a funeral would be an issue. Maybe for the Orthodox, but I never heard that.

On the other hand, a fruit basket would be nice for those who are sitting Shiva.

There were no flowers, no spray of flowers, just a simple wooden casket with an Israeli flag over it. (Which mystified me a little, as the person was not interested in Israel, nor was he particularly observant.) I know the synagogue's Chevra Kadisha performed their burial rituals. This was in the south.

I had read that it's unusual for flowers to be sent or present during a service, and I know the decedent's family kept kosher, so I wasn't sure where there was a deli or store from which to order food that wouldn't be treif.

wife has been giving books of stamps, instead of flowers for years. The grieving family are always grateful too.

I didn't see any references to religion on their site, either. Same for the cemetery. Maybe I made a mistake, or maybe she was not observant.

I had read that flowers were sent historically because their fragrance was supposed to help offset any odor, especially if there were several days between passing and burial.

The funeral home definitely isn't Jewish, though.

It still comes as a shock--probably not just for me. Do we know now whether or not she'd been ill?

May you be at peace, elleng

Thank you for that information. I can only speculate, but it may be that her passing did not come so totally out of the blue.

I am normally at the Eastern Shore and had hopes of meeting up someday.... so saddened now and I find myself up in Vermont this week
RIP ellen

This cannot be true.

She was just here, alive and well I thought.

She was still posting several times a day on Facebook and apparently out taking photos.

This is why it is hard to believe.
We had no warning.

So sorry about her passing. May she rest in peace.

...

and so peaceful...

The first I ever knew of visitation stones was the final scene of Schindler's List, where the remaining Holocaust survivors that Oskar Schindler saved visit his grave, each leaving a stone on it. It was a very moving scene, but I was baffled by the stones, because I had never heard of that custom. Later on, after I found out what the stones meant, I had a whole new appreciation of the scene.

Sorry for the tangent, but I can't think of visitation stones without thinking of that scene in Schindler's List.

I will miss elleng very, very much.

Little stones have a pretty long lifetime.

Rest in Peace Elleng

private message me if possible. I can send to the funeral home also.

She was here a long time

❤️🥰

I'm so depressed! Damn, now I'm crying again.

Everything seems to bring me to tears.

2025 sucked! I didn't think it could possibly be worse that 2024. I was wrong.

I'm lucky to have DUers' support. It helps a lot. I don't know how the hell I can write my Xmas cards when I am NOT looking forward to a new year without sounding morbid. I'll have to "fake it" or just write my name without a personal note which is what I normally do.

Yeah hard to get in the mood, especially feeling like we are on the brink of Armageddon.

I'm an illustrator and I make my own cards ever few years. For 2024 I made my original with an updated note. In 2016 I made tRump's face on the Grinch's body as he looked down from tRump Tower with a heart 3 sizes too small. My note was not a happy one. Things are much worse now.

How did people react to the card?

for an old friend from art school who actually wrote to me, "I pray for our dear leader and so should you" on her Xmas card to me.

It turns out that she is one of "them" since she married a mormon and moved to Shasta, CA (a huge GOP population). I never spoke to her or sent her any birthday or Xmas cards after that. She tried to pretend it doesn't matter and continued to send me cards for a few years. She is the only person I "unfriended" due to tRump and I am glad I did. My sister was her roommate and found Nazi propaganda literature under her bed when she moved out in 1988.

Guess you were lucky to rid yourself of that one. "Dear leader"??? That is unnerving.

It’s funny..she looked rather like I would have pictured her. A sweet lady.

Don't know what to say...I will miss her contributions to DU. She made this a better place.

RIP elleng.

or quiet remembrance for elleng tomorrow morning during her service. She was one of the best of us.

what a sweet poster....
had no idea she was not well....💔

She had been posting regularly on Facebook and some of her posts are still popping up. I think it must have been very sudden. I've yet to hear what happened though.

and treatment. The results were OK but whatever it was may have returned with no advanced warning.

I will always remember how prolific she was, posting on many groups about so many topics.

The world was a better place with her presence.

May her memory be blessed

not sure if it was here or on Facebook. It had to do with her walk or some balance issues.

Truly a great loss.

that something was wrong.

Bird posts, recipes from the NYT. She was a sweet and positive presence here on DU.

I am so sorry, first I've heard of her passing.
I would be happy to contribute to a go fund me set up for ospreys. Or any other charity her family might choose if we can find an obit or the like.