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17. From Wikipedia

Tue Dec 16, 2025, 02:38 PM

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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Visitation_stones
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The act of placing visitation stones is significant in Jewish bereavement practices. Small stones are placed by people who visit Jewish graves in an act of remembrance or respect for the deceased. The practice is a way of participating in the mitzvah (commandment) of burial. It is customary to place the stone with the left hand.[1]
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It is not customary in Judaism to leave flowers at a grave after visiting. It is believed to be more appropriate to give money to charity that could otherwise be spent on flowers.[3] In addition, cut flowers eventually die, but stones are enduring and do not die.[4]
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Do we have a fund going for sending flowers? Bayard Tuesday #1

Not sure hermetic Tuesday #2

I'd contribute! n/t intheflow Tuesday #6

Consider this: I believe She's Jewish. Flowers are not typical. It might Ilsa Tuesday #10

Maybe Ellen was involved with one of the bird/wildlife sanctuaries in her area ... Donkees Tuesday #12

I suspect that could be true. I think her cemetery might be Ilsa Tuesday #15

I think planting trees is a Jewish custom catrose Tuesday #38

Great idea! SheltieLover Wednesday #52

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Absolutely! And I will forever cherish her daily pix the Spring they nested in her yard. SheltieLover Wednesday #64

We had flowers barbtries Tuesday #32

I'm Jewish, raised conservative. Grumpy Old Guy Tuesday #40

I attended a Conservative Jewish funeral earlier this year. Ilsa Wednesday #43

The family can always use postage stamps. My Emile Tuesday #41

The family isn't using a Jewish funeral home so they wouldn't be likely to object to flowers. hedda_foil Tuesday #30

I couldn't find her name on the funeral home's website. Ilsa Wednesday #44

I couldnt find her funeral announcement or obituary either. hedda_foil Wednesday #50

My thoughts will be with her family and friends... hlthe2b Tuesday #3

Several of her posts mentioned having to deal with hydrocephalus and surgery. Donkees Tuesday #5

Oh, my. I had not seen those posts.... hlthe2b Tuesday #7

I think the last time she mentioned the shunt was earlier this year. Donkees Tuesday #8

Thank you for the information... markie Tuesday #4

I am still in shock. I don't believe what I am reading. Irish_Dem Tuesday #9

That's what I thought as well PatSeg Wednesday #47

yes Irish_Dem Wednesday #51

... orangecrush Tuesday #11

elleng was a valued presence here. ancianita Tuesday #13

... Aristus Tuesday #14

Rest in peace, dear Ellen fierywoman Tuesday #16

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what a beautiful tradition! samnsara Tuesday #26

Flowers will die or wilt but stones will not. debm55 Tuesday #33

Thanks for this. ShazzieB Tuesday #28

Jewish headstones are not raised and dedicated until the one year anniversary of the death (Hebrew calendar) hedda_foil Tuesday #29

I like that! calimary Wednesday #48

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I would like to send a card if anyone has the info Phentex Tuesday #21

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Do we have a link to an online obituary? QueerDuck Tuesday #31

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I do too, my dear. Hang in there. Scrivener7 Tuesday #35

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Geez, I'm truly shocked. I did not know she passed. OAITW r.2.0 Tuesday #37

It would be nice if we each had a moment of silence Grim Chieftain Tuesday #39

oh no....I am so sorry .... peacebuzzard Tuesday #42

I didn't know either PatSeg Wednesday #45

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I remember her talking about a procedure PatSeg Wednesday #53

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Yes, I didn't see any indication PatSeg Wednesday #57

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