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malaise

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Sat Jan 4, 2025, 07:23 PM Jan 2025

A strange Story [View all]

I had a platonic relationship with a nice guy for decades. We both loved cricket. He was divorced. He used to take his young son from his second marriage to matches all over the island and sit with a group of us regulars. We had shared friends. The sad thing is that his two kids live overseas with their own families although both visited him last year. I met his daughter when she was here.
All of us regulars celebrated his birthday at a party he hosted last year.
Sometimes I didn’t see him or hear from him for ages. I knew he had some health issues but he was a former athlete. I last saw him in May a few weeks after his birthday. He stopped by and told me he was going to travel overseas in June for a while.
I hadn’t heard from him since, but in all these decades, he always calls me during the Christmas holidays so I started getting worried two weeks ago.
Yesterday I ran into a mutual friend in a supermarket line and told him I called and can’t find him. He changed color and asked me if I hadn’t heard that he had a massive heart attack days before his planned trip in June and died in July.
I am still in shock. His ashes were taken overseas. How did I not know this? I called another regular and she hadn’t heard either.
This is so unusual for an island this size. Freaking wow is all two of us are saying.

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A strange Story [View all] malaise Jan 2025 OP
I'm so sorry for your loss malaise. It's so shocking when you livetohike Jan 2025 #1
This is a first for me malaise Jan 2025 #2
Deepest condolences SheltieLover Jan 2025 #3
Thanks - Still can't believe it malaise Jan 2025 #4
Sometimes it never does feel real SheltieLover Jan 2025 #6
Sorry for your loss Marthe48 Jan 2025 #5
Precisely malaise Jan 2025 #7
Sad way to start the new year Marthe48 Jan 2025 #8
My thought exactly malaise Jan 2025 #10
I am so sorry, Malaise. It's difficult to have closure when someone passes like that. Try to Raven Jan 2025 #9
Thanks malaise Jan 2025 #12
So far, so good. I have some back surgery in my future, but I'm looking forward to that. Raven Jan 2025 #14
Recover quickly malaise Jan 2025 #15
Sorry for the loss of your friend. Americanme Jan 2025 #11
Thanks malaise Jan 2025 #13
Hold onto the beautiful memories. Emile Jan 2025 #16
Indeed malaise Jan 2025 #17
malaise, I am very sorry for the passing of your friend, Usually, I would read in the obituary the passing of loved debm55 Jan 2025 #18
The loss hits first then the malaise Jan 2025 #21
I'm so sorry, malaise Wicked Blue Jan 2025 #19
Thanks malaise Jan 2025 #22
Oh, that's extra sad! My condolences, malaise... electric_blue68 Jan 2025 #20
It can be even worse for some folks malaise Jan 2025 #23
🌺 Donkees Jan 2025 #24
Beautiful malaise Jan 2025 #25
Very sorry, Malaise. yorkster Jan 2025 #26
Losing him is not the problem malaise Jan 2025 #29
A sad story indeed. As we age, we first lose our parents then we begin losing friends. surfered Jan 2025 #27
I'm pretty good at dealing with the reality of our mortality malaise Jan 2025 #30
A sad story indeed. As we age, we first lose our parents then we begin losing friends. surfered Jan 2025 #28
Bummer ProfessorGAC Jan 2025 #31
Without a doubt because he had early signs malaise Jan 2025 #32
Very sorry for your loss. Last Friday I found out an old friend had died on Facebook underpants Jan 2025 #33
Deepest sympathy malaise Jan 2025 #34
I'm so sorry, Malaise. HeartsCanHope Jan 2025 #35
Thank you malaise Jan 2025 #36
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