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malaise

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Sat Jan 4, 2025, 06:23 PM Jan 4

A strange Story [View all]

I had a platonic relationship with a nice guy for decades. We both loved cricket. He was divorced. He used to take his young son from his second marriage to matches all over the island and sit with a group of us regulars. We had shared friends. The sad thing is that his two kids live overseas with their own families although both visited him last year. I met his daughter when she was here.
All of us regulars celebrated his birthday at a party he hosted last year.
Sometimes I didn’t see him or hear from him for ages. I knew he had some health issues but he was a former athlete. I last saw him in May a few weeks after his birthday. He stopped by and told me he was going to travel overseas in June for a while.
I hadn’t heard from him since, but in all these decades, he always calls me during the Christmas holidays so I started getting worried two weeks ago.
Yesterday I ran into a mutual friend in a supermarket line and told him I called and can’t find him. He changed color and asked me if I hadn’t heard that he had a massive heart attack days before his planned trip in June and died in July.
I am still in shock. His ashes were taken overseas. How did I not know this? I called another regular and she hadn’t heard either.
This is so unusual for an island this size. Freaking wow is all two of us are saying.

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A strange Story [View all] malaise Jan 4 OP
I'm so sorry for your loss malaise. It's so shocking when you livetohike Jan 4 #1
This is a first for me malaise Jan 4 #2
Deepest condolences SheltieLover Jan 4 #3
Thanks - Still can't believe it malaise Jan 4 #4
Sometimes it never does feel real SheltieLover Jan 4 #6
Sorry for your loss Marthe48 Jan 4 #5
Precisely malaise Jan 4 #7
Sad way to start the new year Marthe48 Jan 4 #8
My thought exactly malaise Jan 4 #10
I am so sorry, Malaise. It's difficult to have closure when someone passes like that. Try to Raven Jan 4 #9
Thanks malaise Jan 4 #12
So far, so good. I have some back surgery in my future, but I'm looking forward to that. Raven Jan 4 #14
Recover quickly malaise Jan 4 #15
Sorry for the loss of your friend. Americanme Jan 4 #11
Thanks malaise Jan 4 #13
Hold onto the beautiful memories. Emile Jan 4 #16
Indeed malaise Jan 4 #17
malaise, I am very sorry for the passing of your friend, Usually, I would read in the obituary the passing of loved debm55 Jan 4 #18
The loss hits first then the malaise Jan 5 #21
I'm so sorry, malaise Wicked Blue Jan 4 #19
Thanks malaise Jan 5 #22
Oh, that's extra sad! My condolences, malaise... electric_blue68 Jan 4 #20
It can be even worse for some folks malaise Jan 5 #23
🌺 Donkees Jan 5 #24
Beautiful malaise Jan 5 #25
Very sorry, Malaise. yorkster Jan 5 #26
Losing him is not the problem malaise Jan 5 #29
A sad story indeed. As we age, we first lose our parents then we begin losing friends. surfered Jan 5 #27
I'm pretty good at dealing with the reality of our mortality malaise Jan 5 #30
A sad story indeed. As we age, we first lose our parents then we begin losing friends. surfered Jan 5 #28
Bummer ProfessorGAC Jan 5 #31
Without a doubt because he had early signs malaise Jan 5 #32
Very sorry for your loss. Last Friday I found out an old friend had died on Facebook underpants Jan 5 #33
Deepest sympathy malaise Jan 5 #34
I'm so sorry, Malaise. HeartsCanHope Jan 6 #35
Thank you malaise Jan 6 #36
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