learn that someone passed months ago. No chance to say goodbye. My husband had something similar happen. A cousin’s husband died and no one let him know. When we finally heard the news, a month had passed. The other cousins assumed one of them had called.

I’ve heard about this happening to other people. That’s the thing - everyone assumes someone else has told you.

Damn. Nearly six months

Speaking from experience.

Healing energy on the way to you.

Please do good self care & be very gentle with yourself.

Grief is hard work physically, too, so pls just rest when you need to.

May you come to smile when you recall memories of your precious friend.

I had a similar situation this year. I knew someone had passed away. When another person on facebook wished them happy birthday, months I shared the bad news. They didn't know and were shocked and saddened. Never easy. With social media and all of the other methods of communication, you'd think everyone would be aware.

Everyone assumes someone else told you. If his children lived here I’d have known

I’ll get in touch with his kids

keep the good memories in the front of your mind. He would have wanted you to.

I have loads of those - hope your year started well😀

and keep us posted

Sorry malaise for your loss.

and there are many - we went to matches overseas as well. So much fun.

friends, A teacher I mentored early in her teaching career died last December from an attack of asthma. I found out by accident. by a fellow teacher. I was shocked but also angry that not one of the teachers called me, Sally's body was donated to medical research. I never got to say good by. And to talk to her husband and children that I taught. It still leaves a bitter taste in my mouth. To you.malaise

how did I not hear about this. He was so kind, caring and funny. Sorry about the loss of your student teacher as well.

Sending you my condolences and hugs

So glad his kids visited last year

Imho, losing a good friend especially a long time one; can be as hard as a family member.

friend We have family photos that include two of our childhood friends, our dogs and theirs. My parents, one grandmother and two aunts are in those photos. The old folks are all gone but we (the new old folks) are still like family.

😀

It is harder to deal with when news comes out of the blue, so to speak. If you know of someone's possible health problems, you're at least aware of the possible outcomes.
The shock of suddenly hearing about a dear one's unexpected passing only adds to the sadness 😔.

Take care of yourself.

Not knowing that he died over five months ago is what hurts. How did I not hear this.
Maybe it’s because all of us are now retirees - many with their own health issues; maybe the fact that he lived alone and his kids are overseas. The thing is that if he hadn’t told me he was going on a trip in June I would have gone to his place months ago to look for him but that makes no sense because he travelled often.

But they live on in our memories.

I’mmjust coming to terms with the reality of not knowing that he died so many months ago. It was a serious WTF did you just say moment.

But they live on in our memories.

Maybe going without warning is a positive. I don't know.
My dad lingered a year. My mom died in a matter of a few hours.
Take care & our condolences.

of even more serious issues. I am glad for him.

Good friend of my wife’s. She’d been in our wedding.

my friend

I'll be thinking of you as you mourn the loss of your friend. Take care.

Been speaking with others from the regulars.