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jfz9580m

(17,057 posts)
4. I feel the same way
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 03:25 AM
Yesterday

About “outrage to modesty” . I am Indian and that is how they refer to sexual harassment in legalese here and I have frowned over that one.

Like the protagonist in Daphne Du’Maurier’s “Rebecca”, I find “modesty” a confusing word.

Sure, I have verifiably (thanks to our lovely surveillance state - yeah I will do something about that) lead a very non-lurid life outside my one vice, drink and mind altering substances.

Hey don’t judge me! You should see the shit I had to deal with! I am not defensive either!

And I am now on a regimen of medical marijuana and modafinil that works out well and keeps me away from alcohol which is a carcinogen.

But absent a civilized society I like to inform the meninists and creeps that a potty mouth, a penchant for ribald humor and a history of overindulgence in alcohol and substances, do not translate to: I 😍 creeps! Come over boys exploiting poor data hygiene!

This is a sexual harassment PSA since we no longer have any rules!

Because I am a very considerate woman, I feel obligated to communicate that surely it is not even in one’s friendly neighborhood creeps’ own interest to encroach into the lairs of the immodestly belligerent!

I do feel bad for women deprived of even the resources I have to stick it to these douchebags. I will definitely do something targeted some day . Targeted so the non-creep bro contingent does not add to the nuisance by taking it personally and piling in grunting “what about my right to be a thick-headed brute in my own lane? Huh? Huh?”

Yes! In your own lane! Stay there grunting you Darwin Awards candidates..

But the creeps are another matter. They really make life difficult for working women. I have become a kind of auto-didact wrt a working understanding of creep and brute sociology .

I am glad I have a sense of humor..this would have been far worse without it. It is extra scary since these hacker types I can’t stand are probably part creep and part this grunting but non creepy types ..hopefully they are not all creeps. That seems unlikely based on my observation. But those are in surface interactions.

I would like to take the creeps out without that brainiac type also piling on. That is too many people. And some would be the type of unfortunate overworked techie who isn’t either and has to pick up for those other shitheads and while underpaid. I feel sorry for those people too. The whole thing is a mess. I bet a lot of local “ai” is just exploitative gig work that should not exist.

The things one had to think about in this ghastly law of the jungle implementation that replaced what used to be a more civilized society (than this anyway) just 20 years ago..

Bloody Facebook and Google and their totally creepy worldview. Like they would totally maliciously pretend not to get it and be all “well I don’t want to be accused of being a creep..grunt grunt..here I will mangle up all your devices and now you should take a coding class to fix it!” The hell I will. What I will do is efficient (!) low effort mockery of these transparently sleazy gambits. I am not taking a damn coding class and the old rules will be updated for this environment.

What did they think? That women will just meekly subside and walk into the various caricatures they game easily? It is a good thing that I am careful in complaint filing and will only target the truly creepy, malicious etc.

Didn’t their own comic book people say something about great power and responsibility? Dolts..😤

Gotta be careful with that type. Who knows how much they understand of any of the data they extract and exploit. This is the full blown Idiocracy and it is not the Machiavellian types even..It is the pure boneheaded type that really worries me (creeps aside) as they would need to be talked down from laying waste to everything.

“No exit” means exhaustive guessing about what is on the other side and a careful, targeted pushback. A scalpel not a sledgehammer.

As for the rest it is a generally cynical crowd that projects and so pretty much everything is sus (except apparently hacking, data mining, snooping and being one layer above at the very least the least snoopy). Oh well…

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Amusing ... And, still - the whole 'alienation of ..' schtick is so ludicrous and hopelessly antiquated ... stopdiggin Yesterday #1
Yea it has roots in the idea that your spouse is your property, women being the property of their husbands... FascismIsDeath Yesterday #2
And yet, 2 of the 6 states that still have this law on the books are Democratic... PeaceWave Yesterday #3
and again - the idea of a 'home wrecker' - let alone the notion that it is something stopdiggin 21 hrs ago #12
It is not a criminal charge bottomofthehill 3 hrs ago #29
Those states being Democratic doesn't shield them from the valid criticism that they are ass backwards.... FascismIsDeath 13 hrs ago #15
Unfortunately principle can go out the window when it's a "bad" person EdmondDantes_ 9 hrs ago #21
Hey if some ho like sinema NJCher Yesterday #5
Agreed PJMcK Yesterday #7
the idea of 'cheating' as criminal offense, or actionable behavior ..... stopdiggin 21 hrs ago #13
I don't even believe in marriage NJCher 12 hrs ago #17
the only person you have any sort of (legitimate) grievance with stopdiggin 9 hrs ago #20
Men are easy targets NJCher 9 hrs ago #22
The responsibility lies with your partner. FascismIsDeath 13 hrs ago #14
Damages exist NJCher 12 hrs ago #18
There ALREADY is recourse. Its called a divorce settlement. FascismIsDeath 10 hrs ago #19
you won't understand this NJCher 9 hrs ago #23
You're right, I'm not superstitious, so I have not "understanding" of that. FascismIsDeath 7 hrs ago #24
Well, that's amusing NJCher 6 hrs ago #25
I agree that it shouldn't exist, but it does. LisaL 22 hrs ago #11
Seems valid to me if you agree that states shouldn't be able to enforce their laws on people in other states. FascismIsDeath 13 hrs ago #16
Looking more into this, LisaL 5 hrs ago #27
I feel the same way jfz9580m Yesterday #4
it is indeed fucking ridiculous Skittles 4 hrs ago #28
That Senate Cloakroom must be one swingin' place. nt Buns_of_Fire Yesterday #6
That and the theater 😉 SocialDemocrat61 Yesterday #9
I love this for her. SunSeeker Yesterday #8
She spent a lot of time screwing around, literally miyazaki 22 hrs ago #10
A scorned party may want their pound of flesh Keepthesoulalive 5 hrs ago #26
No sympathy for Sinema but "homewrecker" lawsuits are stupid. yellowcanine 20 min ago #30
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