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PeaceWave

(3,240 posts)
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 12:46 AM Yesterday

Kyrsten Sinema getting exactly what she deserves - one of the tawdriest lawsuits possible...

https://www.yahoo.com/news/articles/sinema-admits-romance-security-guard-181858987.html

Kyrsten Sinema had a romantic relationship with a married member of her security detail that began while Sinema was a lawmaker. She fully acknowledges this fact. Apparently, Sinema thought the good people of Arizona elected her to go to Washington, start messing around with a guard in the Senate Cloakroom and see to the demise of said guard's marriage. But, as if that's not embarrassing enough, Sinema has now been sued over the matter, legally branded a homewrecker who just couldn't keep it in her pants, the law be damned.

How you say? Well, Sinema's paramour - Matthew Ammel - is a resident of North Carolina, as is his wife. And, North Carolina is one of a handful of states that allow jilted spouses to sue for "alienation of affection" and seek damages from a third party responsible for the breakup of their marriage. Ignoring for a moment Sinema's remarkably poor judgement in cheating with a married man, she should have been aware of a neighboring state's law regarding such matters. Why? Because she was a fucking U.S. Senator who should know something about the law. Too much emphasis on fucking apparently, not enough on being a U.S. Senator who knows something about the law.

Anyway, Sinema now finds herself embroiled in a lawsuit with her paramour's angry ex requiring the minutest of details of communications between Sinema and her boy toy guard be examined. What kind of psychedelic drugs did you request that your lover bring with him on your escapades? Wowza. Specifically of interest is the extent to which Sinema's sexual imbroglio occurred in or had any nexus to the good state of North Carolina, where this homewrecker law applies. Basically, precisely where were you when your undergarments were being thrown across the room or when you were engaging in sexting regarding such matters? That sort of line of questioning.

Now, I can't bring myself to have any sympathy for Sinema's plight. And, that would be the case whether she was a man or a woman. She was a turncoat Democrat who, to me at least, always seemed to be hiding something ready to blow up in Democrats' faces. It turns out it was a guard, in the closet...fully at attention.

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Kyrsten Sinema getting exactly what she deserves - one of the tawdriest lawsuits possible... (Original Post) PeaceWave Yesterday OP
Amusing ... And, still - the whole 'alienation of ..' schtick is so ludicrous and hopelessly antiquated ... stopdiggin Yesterday #1
Yea it has roots in the idea that your spouse is your property, women being the property of their husbands... FascismIsDeath Yesterday #2
And yet, 2 of the 6 states that still have this law on the books are Democratic... PeaceWave Yesterday #3
and again - the idea of a 'home wrecker' - let alone the notion that it is something stopdiggin 14 hrs ago #12
Those states being Democratic doesn't shield them from the valid criticism that they are ass backwards.... FascismIsDeath 7 hrs ago #15
Unfortunately principle can go out the window when it's a "bad" person EdmondDantes_ 3 hrs ago #21
Hey if some ho like sinema NJCher 22 hrs ago #5
Agreed PJMcK 21 hrs ago #7
the idea of 'cheating' as criminal offense, or actionable behavior ..... stopdiggin 14 hrs ago #13
I don't even believe in marriage NJCher 6 hrs ago #17
the only person you have any sort of (legitimate) grievance with stopdiggin 3 hrs ago #20
Men are easy targets NJCher 2 hrs ago #22
The responsibility lies with your partner. FascismIsDeath 7 hrs ago #14
Damages exist NJCher 6 hrs ago #18
There ALREADY is recourse. Its called a divorce settlement. FascismIsDeath 3 hrs ago #19
you won't understand this NJCher 2 hrs ago #23
You're right, I'm not superstitious, so I have not "understanding" of that. FascismIsDeath 42 min ago #24
I agree that it shouldn't exist, but it does. LisaL 15 hrs ago #11
Seems valid to me if you agree that states shouldn't be able to enforce their laws on people in other states. FascismIsDeath 6 hrs ago #16
I feel the same way jfz9580m 22 hrs ago #4
That Senate Cloakroom must be one swingin' place. nt Buns_of_Fire 21 hrs ago #6
That and the theater 😉 SocialDemocrat61 18 hrs ago #9
I love this for her. SunSeeker 20 hrs ago #8
She spent a lot of time screwing around, literally miyazaki 16 hrs ago #10

stopdiggin

(15,367 posts)
1. Amusing ... And, still - the whole 'alienation of ..' schtick is so ludicrous and hopelessly antiquated ...
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 01:40 AM
Yesterday

Kinda' hard for regular people - like those that live in the 21st century - to sort of get their heads around there being any real merit ...

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FascismIsDeath

(158 posts)
2. Yea it has roots in the idea that your spouse is your property, women being the property of their husbands...
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 01:44 AM
Yesterday

...was the idea it was really intended for. Of course this is a reversal of that role with Sinema.

Its a stupid law and should no longer exist.

PeaceWave

(3,240 posts)
3. And yet, 2 of the 6 states that still have this law on the books are Democratic...
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 02:00 AM
Yesterday

Hawaii and New Mexico

along with

North Carolina, Mississippi, South Dakota and Utah

That said, these claims occur most often in North Carolina - which is precisely why Sinema should have known better. The real pinch in that state comes when the interloping party has enough money to their name. In 2011, a woman was forced to pay another woman $30 million for breaking up her marriage. In 2018, a man was forced to pay another man $8.8 in a similar case. Homewreckers beware. You're playing with fire in North Carolina.

stopdiggin

(15,367 posts)
12. and again - the idea of a 'home wrecker' - let alone the notion that it is something
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 11:28 AM
14 hrs ago

for which another can or should be held criminally liable .....
Is profoundly backwards and antediluvian. Next up - sex outside the bounds of marriage! Or between people of different race? (or approved gender?) Puritans values on parade! Yay!

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FascismIsDeath

(158 posts)
15. Those states being Democratic doesn't shield them from the valid criticism that they are ass backwards....
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 07:20 PM
7 hrs ago

...in regards to having a law like this on the books. As I said to another poster, anyone who claims to be progressive minded and is "okay" with laws like this still existing in the US in the year 2026 are kidding themselves about their progressive mindedness. Sinema is a trashy person but bad law is bad law. Its not quite on the level of "anti-sodomy laws" intended to target people who are gay but its in that same trajectory. Its the kind of legislation that fundamentalist Christian nationalists would cream their pants over... (and then they'd turn around and pass another law to punish themselves for said pants creaming).

EdmondDantes_

(1,703 posts)
21. Unfortunately principle can go out the window when it's a "bad" person
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 11:21 PM
3 hrs ago

Yeah, cheating sucks, but it's weird being the morality police.

NJCher

(43,043 posts)
5. Hey if some ho like sinema
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 04:11 AM
22 hrs ago

Came along and effed up my partnership, causing me enormous economic distress, not to mention the emotional, I would be damn grateful to have this law and I would sue until hell froze over.

I would take great joy in coming up with my discovery questions, too.

I have never been able to figure out what people who engage in this sort of behavior are after.



PJMcK

(25,029 posts)
7. Agreed
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 05:11 AM
21 hrs ago

But since it takes two to foxtrot, I doubt this is a circumstance you or I will ever face.

stopdiggin

(15,367 posts)
13. the idea of 'cheating' as criminal offense, or actionable behavior .....
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 11:40 AM
14 hrs ago
"the sacred bounds of marriage !!"
Ugh !!

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I refer you to post #12

NJCher

(43,043 posts)
17. I don't even believe in marriage
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 08:09 PM
6 hrs ago

If you have children, maybe.

All I care about is not interfering with someone else's relationship. When you do that, as you can see from the story, it upsets living arrangements, economics, puts another person through a nightmare--and for what? So you can have a momentary fling?

Do the responsible thing and get out of the relationship before you go down that path.

stopdiggin

(15,367 posts)
20. the only person you have any sort of (legitimate) grievance with
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 11:20 PM
3 hrs ago

is the person that has made some sort of 'commitment' toward you. Any other(s) - are purely tangential to either that commitment, the relationship, living condition - or any damages done therein.

The idea of someone coming along and 'poaching' on your innocent and unsullied territory ... Is pure fantasy and at base fictional legerdemain. Sorry - but I cannot agree with even the basic tenets or proposition regarding argument for, as you would put it, "interference". Your partner is the one who strayed. Full stop.

NJCher

(43,043 posts)
22. Men are easy targets
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 11:39 PM
2 hrs ago

Most of them, anyway. Fortunately not mine.

I don't even know why anyone would mess around with a married person. It seems like a dead end to me. Waste of time. I can't respect anyone who would do it. To me it says they have no self respect.

It always surprises me that people won't hold out for the best for themselves.

FascismIsDeath

(158 posts)
14. The responsibility lies with your partner.
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 07:16 PM
7 hrs ago

If I ever cheated on my wife, that would be 100% on me. I'm not going to do such a thing but if I did, I and I alone am to blame for it.

No progressive minded person should ever be grateful that such an antiquated, bullshit law exists. Sinema can still go screw herself with a rusty rake but its not about her.

FascismIsDeath

(158 posts)
19. There ALREADY is recourse. Its called a divorce settlement.
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 10:24 PM
3 hrs ago

No one should but your spouse should owe you anything if they break their vows.

Your idea of fair recourse is very, very right wing leaning.

NJCher

(43,043 posts)
23. you won't understand this
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 11:42 PM
2 hrs ago

but I've got a Scorpio ascendent.

Also, stop labeling beliefs as right wing or left wing. This is called stereotyping. Not everything is as black and white as you'd like it to be.

FascismIsDeath

(158 posts)
24. You're right, I'm not superstitious, so I have not "understanding" of that.
Mon Mar 16, 2026, 01:40 AM
42 min ago

And no, some beliefs are actually just left wing or right wing while others maybe not be to black and white. I will continue to call them as I see them.

LisaL

(47,397 posts)
11. I agree that it shouldn't exist, but it does.
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 10:23 AM
15 hrs ago

She is arguing she isn't liable because the cheating occurred outside of North Carolina. The argument doesn't seem convincing to me.
I guess we will have to wait and see.

FascismIsDeath

(158 posts)
16. Seems valid to me if you agree that states shouldn't be able to enforce their laws on people in other states.
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 07:23 PM
6 hrs ago

That, at its core, is no different than Texas trying to prosecute women who go to another state to get an abortion or if they tried to prosecute someone for going to Colorado to smoke weed or they went to Nevada to get a prostitute.

Actually that last one is very interesting, can some woman from North Carolina sue the Bunny Ranch if her scum bag husband decided to pick up a prostitute on a trip to Vegas?

jfz9580m

(17,041 posts)
4. I feel the same way
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 03:25 AM
22 hrs ago

About “outrage to modesty” . I am Indian and that is how they refer to sexual harassment in legalese here and I have frowned over that one.

Like the protagonist in Daphne Du’Maurier’s “Rebecca”, I find “modesty” a confusing word.

Sure, I have verifiably (thanks to our lovely surveillance state - yeah I will do something about that) lead a very non-lurid life outside my one vice, drink and mind altering substances.

Hey don’t judge me! You should see the shit I had to deal with! I am not defensive either!

And I am now on a regimen of medical marijuana and modafinil that works out well and keeps me away from alcohol which is a carcinogen.

But absent a civilized society I like to inform the meninists and creeps that a potty mouth, a penchant for ribald humor and a history of overindulgence in alcohol and substances, do not translate to: I 😍 creeps! Come over boys exploiting poor data hygiene!

This is a sexual harassment PSA since we no longer have any rules!

Because I am a very considerate woman, I feel obligated to communicate that surely it is not even in one’s friendly neighborhood creeps’ own interest to encroach into the lairs of the immodestly belligerent!

I do feel bad for women deprived of even the resources I have to stick it to these douchebags. I will definitely do something targeted some day . Targeted so the non-creep bro contingent does not add to the nuisance by taking it personally and piling in grunting “what about my right to be a thick-headed brute in my own lane? Huh? Huh?”

Yes! In your own lane! Stay there grunting you Darwin Awards candidates..

But the creeps are another matter. They really make life difficult for working women. I have become a kind of auto-didact wrt a working understanding of creep and brute sociology .

I am glad I have a sense of humor..this would have been far worse without it. It is extra scary since these hacker types I can’t stand are probably part creep and part this grunting but non creepy types ..hopefully they are not all creeps. That seems unlikely based on my observation. But those are in surface interactions.

I would like to take the creeps out without that brainiac type also piling on. That is too many people. And some would be the type of unfortunate overworked techie who isn’t either and has to pick up for those other shitheads and while underpaid. I feel sorry for those people too. The whole thing is a mess. I bet a lot of local “ai” is just exploitative gig work that should not exist.

The things one had to think about in this ghastly law of the jungle implementation that replaced what used to be a more civilized society (than this anyway) just 20 years ago..

Bloody Facebook and Google and their totally creepy worldview. Like they would totally maliciously pretend not to get it and be all “well I don’t want to be accused of being a creep..grunt grunt..here I will mangle up all your devices and now you should take a coding class to fix it!” The hell I will. What I will do is efficient (!) low effort mockery of these transparently sleazy gambits. I am not taking a damn coding class and the old rules will be updated for this environment.

What did they think? That women will just meekly subside and walk into the various caricatures they game easily? It is a good thing that I am careful in complaint filing and will only target the truly creepy, malicious etc.

Didn’t their own comic book people say something about great power and responsibility? Dolts..😤

Gotta be careful with that type. Who knows how much they understand of any of the data they extract and exploit. This is the full blown Idiocracy and it is not the Machiavellian types even..It is the pure boneheaded type that really worries me (creeps aside) as they would need to be talked down from laying waste to everything.

“No exit” means exhaustive guessing about what is on the other side and a careful, targeted pushback. A scalpel not a sledgehammer.

As for the rest it is a generally cynical crowd that projects and so pretty much everything is sus (except apparently hacking, data mining, snooping and being one layer above at the very least the least snoopy). Oh well…

miyazaki

(2,639 posts)
10. She spent a lot of time screwing around, literally
Sun Mar 15, 2026, 10:18 AM
16 hrs ago

The lawsuit reads like the antics of a teenage concert groupie.

Hope she loses badly.

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