General Discussion

I won't have that problem, since my spouse and I are off similar minds. But at one point, my mother's desire to donate would have been overruled by my sister, had my mother's declaration not been binding.

Please don't use scare tactics of the system honoring the wishes of the decedent to discourage the most efficient means of getting your organs to people who need them.

Anything short of the registry leaves donation up to the initiative of medical people (who may not ask), relatives who may not know - or may disagree with the deceased persons wishes - or, as in the case you are citing, are too overcome with grief to allow the donation to go forward.

Full disclosure - my daughter will likely need a liver transplant (or more than one - friends with the same disease have needed as many as 5). We've also had friends die in the waiting list. But we've been organ donor for longer than she's been alive, and certainly longer than the 17 years she's had PSC