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mercuryblues

(16,287 posts)
25. My heart goes out to you
Thu Feb 12, 2026, 08:29 PM
Feb 12

It is daunting the 1st few months. Trying to get the body adjusted to everything, then the real battle begins. I know this sounds odd but take care of yourself. If you don't you won't be able to be there for her.

Let me tell you about my Shrek legs.

After my first few Chemo treatments, I swelled up similar to what you described. My brother being my brother said...OMG Merc, you have Shrek feet. I thought the nurse was going to faint. I cracked up and looked at her and said, well he ain't wrong.

I was finally diagnosed with a Pseudomonas infection. I called it a Harry Potter spell. This bacteria is found in almost everything. When you are healthy you just slough it off. Not a big deal. When you get this sick the rules change.

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/25164-pseudomonas-infection

One way to combat this and other infections in the future sounds odd.

A neutropenic diet. Boil drinking water. you can have have canned or well cooked fruits and veggies, not raw. Think applesauce, not fresh apples. The heat destroys the bacteria in your food.

more at:
https://www.mskcc.org/experience/patient-support/nutrition-cancer/diet-plans-cancer/neutropenic-diet

You guys will learn to live by test results and what you can do on your end to make it through this.





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Blood Cancer has struck... [View all] Layzeebeaver Feb 12 OP
Still, will comment in solidarity. mr715 Feb 12 #1
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Joe .. my heart aches for both of you Greywing Feb 12 #6
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peace to you, brother...peace. ret5hd Feb 12 #12
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RN friend told me to eat and drink hungry and thursty or not to be there for her. IA8IT Feb 12 #17
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Your dear wife's health maliaSmith Feb 12 #26
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Feeling helpless to really help is hard. summer_in_TX Feb 13 #55
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Writing thing down helps clarify them, which you did wonderfully! lark Feb 13 #60
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