Sending good vibes

I hope they can find something to give your wife for some relief. Be sure to take care of yourself. Caregiving is is exhausting. Sending thoughts up that you find answers. 💗🙏🏼💐💗

Reach out you're amongst friends and colleagues that have "been there done that"...cancer of any form is insidious. Invasive. Cruel. Unrelenting. Your fam in the states stand behind your and especially her. Sorry for you both. Cancer sucks

I know your wife is in good hands and there really is nothing anyone of us can do when our loved ones are struck except be with them.

You are a blessing and such a good person as you accompany your wife on her journey.

task she has been handed. In 2020 I was diagnosed with Large B Cell Lymphoma that appeared to respond well to chemo with scans showing no evidence of the disease making me believe I was on way to remission. In 2023 I became ill and found that I had a totally different Lymphoma-FLL - treatable but not curable.
I will hold her in my thoughts, prayers and heart. I will pray for her doctors and their success in treating her. I extend warm hugs to you because of helplessness, worry and stress.

You don’t have to lift this load alone.

And MANY hugs!

That's a tough diagnosis. If it is any comfort, one of my dear friends, who was also my major professor at grad school, was diagnosed with leukemia in his thirties and lived until his late seventies. He played tennis and golf for many years and lived a full, active life.

My husband's friend, also a professor, was diagnosed with lymphoma and lived into his late seventies.

There is hope. Please know you are in my thoughts and I am sending you and your wife positive vibes and good wishes.

Not sure if this will be helpful, but I saw this new cancer treatment they are using at Vanderbilt for liver cancer & posted the article:

https://democraticunderground.com/11469899

I'm glad you both have adequate support, but please feel free to lean in on DU.

That you two are going thru this. Your just being there to support her is a huge contribution to her well-being. Take care.

She was right.

Tears and Hope to Both of you.

My husband was diagnosed with lymphoma 2.5 years ago. He had to have lots of fluid removed 2x per week from around his lungs for months. He is now in remission. (He is still receiving rituximab shots and white blood cell boosters shots.)
Good to hear she has a good medical team. Take care of yourself. ❤️ Sending you and your wife love and positive energy.
Cancer sucks.

watching the rest of the world go on around you and your world has come to a screeching halt. Please know how much we care and want you to come to us with your thoughts and feelings. This time nine years ago, I was at my husband’s hospital bed every minute for weeks. My heart goes out to you! Sending strength and hopeful hugs your way. 🧡

I will pray and light a candle in a very special sacred place during my upcoming travels on Ash Wednesday.

You’re in my thoughts. Hoping for the best.

All the best to both of you. Please keep us posted as you travel this terribly difficult path. We Care!!!

It is daunting the 1st few months. Trying to get the body adjusted to everything, then the real battle begins. I know this sounds odd but take care of yourself. If you don't you won't be able to be there for her.

Let me tell you about my Shrek legs.

After my first few Chemo treatments, I swelled up similar to what you described. My brother being my brother said...OMG Merc, you have Shrek feet. I thought the nurse was going to faint. I cracked up and looked at her and said, well he ain't wrong.

I was finally diagnosed with a Pseudomonas infection. I called it a Harry Potter spell. This bacteria is found in almost everything. When you are healthy you just slough it off. Not a big deal. When you get this sick the rules change.

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/25164-pseudomonas-infection

One way to combat this and other infections in the future sounds odd.

A neutropenic diet. Boil drinking water. you can have have canned or well cooked fruits and veggies, not raw. Think applesauce, not fresh apples. The heat destroys the bacteria in your food.

more at:
https://www.mskcc.org/experience/patient-support/nutrition-cancer/diet-plans-cancer/neutropenic-diet

You guys will learn to live by test results and what you can do on your end to make it through this.

I'm sending big hugs to both of you in your health journey. I hope it works out well for both of you.

It is an awful ordeal, but don't feel defeated. Your devotion and daily presence means so much to your wife. You can fight this better together and hopefully she will be able to go home with you soon.
Sending hugs and hearts.

you both through this journey and remain hopeful for a good outcome.

Wishing you all the very best.

Their treatments involved chemotherapy and, in one case, stem cell therapy all at M D Anderson in Houston, TX.

The neighbor died of old age. The friend and Urologist are still kicking. So, don’t give up hope.
❤️🙏

I am in a situation very similar to yours, I understand what you're going through. Please remember to care for yourself.

hugggs, and remember we are always here.

And good wishes on you both holding up emotionally. Please speak of the strengths of simply covering everyone and how it really smooths care in emergencies and with serious situations.

If you need, you are among a large group of the most compassionate and helpful people you will ever encounter. All in one place!!

For the best possible results so you can get on with your happy lives together. 🌺

to you and your wife. Take care. We are with you on this journey.💙🤗

Speaking from experience, it sounds as though you're doing everything you can for her, just being present. It can be her greatest comfort. One bit of unsolicited advice, take a moment for yourself, to recharge. It's easy to become so focused on your wife that you forget to eat and rest. You might underestimate the stress that takes a physical toll on you.
I wish you both well.

You are both going through this. Cancer is hard.

Healing light and peace to you both. 🙌

She’s probably better off in England than back in the states, considering the healthcare systems, and especially with he-who-shall-not-be-named in office.

Waves of healing.

Stay strong and positive, and spend as much time as you can with her. It truly makes a difference.

Big hugs to both of you to help pull you through.

J.

Layzeebeaver, and your love. We are here for you.

Sending healing vibes and much love to your wife, you, and your families. You will all be in my thoughts.

Where care isthe top priority. Just take it day by day and make each day the best you can. Best wishes vfor you both.

possible outcome. Know that your DU family is here for you. Lean as hard as you need. There is always someone here.

hugggggggggs

My prayers & thoughts are with you and your wife. I'm hoping for the best possible outcome.

Hoping for a good outcome for your wife and that you stay strong

My virtual arms are around you

Especially when it's the one you love most in the world. Your devotion is heart-warming. I so hope and pray for the best for you and for her, Joe.

My sister is in that same in-between stage of lymphoma and leukemia. They're also looking at her thyroid.

I hope you have family there to help you through this. At least your wife's in the hands of a health care system that you trust. (My sister is also fortunate to be living in a city with excellent care. And I guess Medicare here is as close to NHS as we get.)

The best of luck to you both!

I'm so sorry your wife is so sick. Please keep us posted. You have DU always. Sending positive thoughts for a positive and speedy resolution.

Thankful your wife and you are in England, where you are obviously getting topnotch and QUICK care - which is often not the case here!

Our friends son is 14 and he has lukemina..and he is doing well..AS WILL YOU AND YOUR WIFE..

My mom had a form of blood cancer (actually the opposite of leukemia) for 25 years.
The infusions held it remission for a LONG time.
When she did pass, that illness is not what did it.
So, don't give up hope.

I am glad you and your beloved are working in a decent system of care in which you have confidence.

We all wish you the best outcome under the weight love brings.

It's a tough challenge.

So glad you have a good medical team, and it sounds like you're approaching things with as constructive an outlook as possible. It's a very difficult journey, but stay conscious as much as possible that you and your wife aren't alone.

As well as the medical team, you have friends, and this community is here for you.

When suddenly "normal" includes a Big Awful Thing it can feel as though that's the only part of "normal" you can focus on. But it's also helpful to stay conscious of the rest of "normal", and especially where your friends can help with that as well as giving you a place to 'release' the tension.

Even just sharing a walk or a coffee and talking about 'other stuff' for a while (what's going on with them?) can be like a mini-vacation from The Big Awful. Lean into it as needed, and don't feel guilty.

And yeah, when you need to 'release' those feelings of sadness and anxiety, we're here.

Stay strong.

supportively,
Bright

I know I’ve been there. Sending a lot of positive energy your way. Be sure to take care of yourself as well!

.. it sounds like she is getting good care and they are thinking of you as well.

My step dad had blood cancer and it reacted very similar to what you are describing. He did not last very long

I hope your wife turns the corner and has a much better outcome

hugs and love and all good things into the universe

Let go of it for a while and hold onto your wife's hand. It sounds like they're kind people and. you'll still have a chair at that table going forward.

a more caring group, than those here........all in hopes for the best outcome......

It's got to be so hard, you want to be strong and positive for your partner, but it can be so overwhelming to try to keep it all compartmentalized...and exhausting.

I hope it all goes well for her and that you are able to find a way through it all as well.

Sending you and your dear wife love and strength.

You can lean on us. Sending hugs and good vibes.