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5. Next door neighbors - I grew up in a working class neighborhood - two family houses. Next door neighbors were

Tue Dec 16, 2025, 07:47 AM

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dying to have a child. After years of trying, they succeeded. The last I heard, the kid was in is 30's and punching them because he wasn't given money. They moved to Florida so I don't know how things worked out.

Second family, same house. Two sons. The boys, unlike "poor me," had new bikes, baseball gloves, and on and on. The family moved to a ritzier part of town and years later, I saw the father. "How are X and X?"

"I raised two bastards." That was his reply.

I thought about this because their mother's obit was in Sunday's paper. She died at age 101. -- All the wonderful tributes to her but I doubt they appreciated those qualities in her when she was alive.

And we wonder. Are these problem kids due to genetics or upbringing?

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About Nick Reiner [View all] no_hypocrisy Dec 16 OP

There are many struggling snowybirdie Dec 16 #1

on the real life show "Intervention" - many of the episodes featured parents/grandparents under considerable pressure BlueWaveNeverEnd Dec 17 #36

Malcolm Nance said that Rob Reiner talked to him about Liberal In Texas Dec 16 #2

wow MadameButterfly Dec 16 #13

I was thinking the same thing. Irish_Dem Dec 16 #22

indeed. He has so many resources, I wish he had hired a full time security guard BlueWaveNeverEnd Dec 17 #37

Wow. I wonder what Malcolm suggested flamingdem Dec 17 #28

Yikes. So awful and cruel. Some sort of demonic force must grip these people LymphocyteLover Dec 16 #3

Addiction is horrible, and mixed with a mental illness creates a dangerous situation. kellytore Dec 16 #4

Next door neighbors - I grew up in a working class neighborhood - two family houses. Next door neighbors were 3Hotdogs Dec 16 #5

Don't forget environmental factors. hunter Dec 16 #6

My question would be... llmart Dec 16 #9

"almost" being an important qualifier here - cab67 Dec 16 #12

A daughter is not likely to slit the throat of her parents. Irish_Dem Dec 16 #24

Daughters can be just as locked into themselves as sons... haele Dec 16 #14

Brain wiring and genetics play a part lostnfound Dec 16 #21

Young men also have delayed frontal lobe development compared to females. Irish_Dem Dec 16 #25

don't let Christian rightwingers hear you say that. Dont you know that women are created to be under male leadership? BlueWaveNeverEnd Dec 17 #34

Yes, and it is a very bad system. Irish_Dem Dec 17 #39

Yes, and it is a very bad system. Irish_Dem Dec 17 #40

Yes most of the violence on the planet is male. Irish_Dem Dec 16 #23

I have frequently observed over the span of years mothers almost training their sons to hate women as a result msfiddlestix Dec 16 #26

I've read your post a couple times to try to understand it. llmart Dec 16 #27

Oopsy. Didn't want to paint such a broad brushstroke, apologize for that.not intended. msfiddlestix Dec 17 #38

Oh, I didn't read it like that. llmart Dec 17 #41

Why isn't the son in jail? Seriously. That's attempted murder of your friend. Vinca Dec 16 #7

After decades of domestic abuse no_hypocrisy Dec 16 #11

In the case of the Reiner's they did set boundaries and after repeated rehab visits... Hope22 Dec 16 #15

This happened decades ago. It is unlikely that the parents are alive. 3Hotdogs Dec 16 #16

From my own history with such family txwhitedove Dec 16 #8

Had to do that with a family member, too. She became a meth addict, which broke up her allegorical oracle Dec 17 #31

These horrible stories -- I wish there were answers mainer Dec 16 #10

Thank President Reagan for closing the hospitals that used to house these individuals. /nt artemisia1 Dec 16 #17

Yes, there is definitely a need for some of these violent individuals senseandsensibility Dec 16 #18

That was horrible, but why wasn't the policy ever reversed? Polybius Dec 17 #29

I'm getting a feeling that this situation is more common that we realize senseandsensibility Dec 16 #19

Sounds like Rebl2 Dec 16 #20

I tried. But the Elder Abuse division won't do anything unless no_hypocrisy Dec 17 #32

Must be Rebl2 Dec 17 #33

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the same week, also LA area, Rich doctor couple killed by son, famous singer killed by son BlueWaveNeverEnd Dec 17 #35