History of Feminism

I didn't reply when you first posted this simply because I didn't have the spoons to do so - it is such a familiar story, and a triggering one at that. It is surprisingly difficult not to start questioning your own perception of reality - "Did he really say that? Did he mean it seriously? Surely he must have been joking, guys aren't that crude, are they?" You almost start gaslighting yourself because society tells you that this doesn't happen to good girls (and certainly not to boys!) You tell yourself that there must have been something that told him he could say that to you, something wrong with you, because society tells us that guys just don't do this - except they do. Guys are told they need to be on the offensive, that they need to hit on their prey (and yes, the language is violent for a purpose.)

I do hope you find healing and that this will not negatively impact your life. Take care of yourself.