History of Feminism

The reason people aren't seeing your side here is because it sounds far too much like you're trying to get validation. It sounds like you're trying to get people to say: as long as it's "soft rape", it's not as bad as "violent rape". Not a lot of victims try to say that one rape is worse than the other, because they know they all involved rape, so of course it's bad.

The truth is that the teenage brain hasn't developed enough to see the long-term consequences of being screwed by a much older person. There's a power imbalance that they're just not aware of, but that the adult knows about and exploits. Saying that that kind of rape is "more okay/less terrible" than stranger rape has no practical use than to shit on the people who went through "soft rape" and to validate those who exploited them.

That's why you hear things like "rape is rape". It's not because people doesn't think adding violence to the rape will make it horrible, but they're not willing to coddle rapists. They're also not willing to throw survivors of statutory rape under the bus.