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Control-Z

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6. When I found out my husband was cheating

Fri Feb 14, 2014, 05:49 PM

Feb 2014

he went on a smear campaign against me like nothing I could have imagined. He destroyed me. Kicked me to the gutter. And told everyone I knew, everyone he knew, and everyone we knew including our kids, that I was damaged goods. I don't know that any other words have ever hurt me more.

Calling a woman damaged or damaged goods is for one reason and one reason only. To degrade, humiliate and demean, her until her soul is crushed and even she believes she is damaged.

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Can we stop referring to women as "damaged"? (HOF THREAD) [View all] redqueen Feb 2014 OP

i agree. do not like it either. used as weapon against women, on top of everything else. nt seabeyond Feb 2014 #1

Hearkens back to "damaged goods." Which is a phrase with a whole world of crap in it. Squinch Feb 2014 #2

It's such a messed up phrase cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #3

I've been told a bunch of times on DU that something must have boston bean Feb 2014 #4

We could ismnotwasm Feb 2014 #5

Not right, fucked up... those are awesome, yeah. redqueen Feb 2014 #7

With your consent and approval, I might use the word "injured"... Mister Ed Feb 2014 #8

When I found out my husband was cheating Control-Z Feb 2014 #6

It's fucking gaslighting bullshit. MadrasT Feb 2014 #9

Yes, that is exactly what it is. Control-Z Feb 2014 #10

At the very least, it is a lazy terminiology. If indeed, someone has experienced a traumatic Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #11