Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News Editorials & Other Articles General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

zazen

(2,978 posts)
20. well, Playboy or Esquire--the "softer" stuff from that era
Thu Feb 6, 2014, 01:27 PM
Feb 2014

Or Omni. Seems like all the "liberal" ish magazines had seduction articles aimed at men--but I was a kid reading whatever I could get my hands on. Omni always had cool futuristic stuff to an 11-year-old nerdy girl like me--I didn't understand the Penthouse connection until later.

I too have two teenage daughters and I'm also trying to do my part. Being informed to protect them is one thing. However, we all have triggers, and knowing one's personal limit so that one stays functional to actually make change in the world is part of the balance of activism.

I commend you for being strong in this area. The whole world of PUA and pornography upsets me so much and I often have to take a break. I was part of that anti-porn activism group in the late 80s here in CH out of which grew a number of current scholars on the subject (and before that volunteered a lot in the battered women's movement), so it's a long term thing with me. But as pornography got more brutal over the ensuing two decades and in fact affected (nearly destroyed) a person close to me, I just had to check out at times, or else I couldn't have provided other things for my daughters to get them to a happy, productive adulthood.



Recommendations

0 members have recommended this reply (displayed in chronological order):

i cannot read that. how can i find a link for bigger print? seabeyond Feb 2014 #1
Aw is it small? redqueen Feb 2014 #2
it is pretty small. I tried to enlarge it ... couldn't but, I got the gist of it, I think. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #4
I did a google image search but this seems to be the biggest one. redqueen Feb 2014 #6
Are you posting from your phone? Kudos! Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #8
I only got a smart phone because I needed email aceess on it for work. redqueen Feb 2014 #16
oh, redqueen .. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #17
Aha.. redqueen Feb 2014 #25
glasses and up close got it for me. geeeez. pathetic pathetic little boys. i am sorry.... seabeyond Feb 2014 #5
ah... tips on Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #3
It seems like it's offered here as general relationship advice. redqueen Feb 2014 #7
PUA = posting under aliens ... ? Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #9
Sorry, it's an abbreviation for Pick Up Artists. redqueen Feb 2014 #12
ah, thanks. - Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #15
I'd like to think that many of the men who *initially* get sucked into the PUA subculture.... YoungDemCA Feb 2014 #18
Not far removed at all from PUA logic... YoungDemCA Feb 2014 #10
Nope, it's basically tips on 'overcoming Last Minute Resistance (LMR)' redqueen Feb 2014 #13
40 years ago these guys would have seemed sensitive by comparison zazen Feb 2014 #11
By "men's mags" do you mean porn? redqueen Feb 2014 #14
well, Playboy or Esquire--the "softer" stuff from that era zazen Feb 2014 #20
Oh yeah, I defnitely agree. redqueen Feb 2014 #27
without plotting about it like it's something to steal from a woman without her knowing? seabeyond Feb 2014 #22
Ugh. historylovr Feb 2014 #19
& what does that say about their audiences' assumptions, that they have to _state_ that? zazen Feb 2014 #21
i want to see an article for young women, how to walk you viginal lover into a fantastic night of seabeyond Feb 2014 #24
the hesitant virgin. yes.... lets keep her as a delicate little flower. no empowerment, seabeyond Feb 2014 #23
and again ... puts all the pressure on the boys Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #26
Disturbing Rider3 Feb 2014 #28
I saw a drink recipe like that. redqueen Feb 2014 #29
Latest Discussions»Alliance Forums»History of Feminism»Yet another example of ra...»Reply #20