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BainsBane

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Tue Feb 4, 2014, 10:23 PM Feb 2014

Why The Bachelor is the most offensively sexist show on television [View all]

I don't watch this show, but I understand the gist of it. (Okay, I confess to having watched in years ago, but not since). Anyway, the homophobic bachelor Juan Pablo also turns out to enjoy shaming women with whom he becomes intimate.

Watch the video here:

http://jezebel.com/everyone-hates-bachelor-juan-pablo-1515802741

Clare and Juan Pablo have a special connection or something, though by the looks of the preview for next week, that connection will soon be broken. The night of the group date, Juan Pablo decided that Clare was worthy of some bathing suit alone time, and they canoodled in the pool of his private suite, just like they had in a hot tub in a previous episode. "I took her to my suite. I just wanted to have a good time with her, make her feel special. Let her know that I feel comfortable with her," Juan Pablo said. This was one of many times he would use the word "comfortable" with regard to his actions with Clare; she's considered a bit uptight and needed to be brought out of her shell or something.

Clare, emboldened by the special attention he was giving her, took the bull by the horns and, like Courtney had in Ben Flajnik's season, invited Juan Pablo to go in the ocean with her in the middle of the night. ("I just wanted to come and say thank you" = classic line.) While there's much debate over whether or not the two actually had sex in the those warm, Vietnamese waters, things were apparently hot and heavy enough to prompt Juan Pablo to reconsider whether it had been the right thing to do. During the Rose ceremony, Juan Pablo decided to take Clare aside and tell her that he wasn't sure that what they did was "fair" to the other girls, and that he was worried about the example he was setting for his daughter.

"That was good," he said to Clare, who was still brimming with joy over the whole affair, during one of two talks about the incident they would have. "But at the same time it was kind of a little weird for me." Juan Pablo then proceeded to not explain himself at all and make Clare feel terrible. Even after backtracking and saying she shouldn't be upset, that he was just trying to explain how he felt to her, Clare clearly felt terrible, given that she had just made an emboldened toast at the Rose Ceremony about "finding love, being loved, and making love." (She may have also been remembering and cursing herself for the comment she made about being so excited she felt like a baby giraffe with wobbly legs? Unclear.

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Harrison is also typically pretty measured in his criticisms of people on the show, but after the episode aired, he called out the "bizarreness of [Juan Pablo's] actions" in an interview with TV Guide:

When she showed up he was fully into it like this is awesome and sexy and she was as happy as can be and then he turns around and treats her like all of a sudden she did something wrong and broke the rules. It was not only confusing, but it was borderline rude. We even told him as much, but he didn't see it that way. Even though he apologized later I don't think he really understood how cheap he made her feel. In my deliberation I said, "You're not getting this, you really hurt her feelings, you need to fix it and apologize." But there are cultural differences with him and things do get lost in translation and how it's interpreted. It's his perspective; it's not right or wrong. So it made for interesting conversations and I had to learn to stand back a little bit and respect that.

"Cultural differences" aside, Harrison clearly doesn't think much of the dude. "You've seen [chinks] in his armor already, but I wonder what people will now think about how he treats everyone and goes about things," he added. "But this is who he is and what he says and you'll see it, warts and all."

Even the producers of the most sexist show on television are embarrassed at Juan Pablo's sexism. Imagine, a guy who goes to a house to choose between thirty plus women, dating them all at the same time, being sexist? Whoda thunk it?
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