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In reply to the discussion: A gay man calls out misogyny in gay male subculture [View all]Ms. Toad
(35,851 posts)The last time I tried to discuss the mysogynistic behavior I was encountering there, I was called a man hater. The post was hidden, but there was a pile on by many people who were hosts of the group. I pointed out that if someone in GD had called a lesbian a man-hater that they would be all over it, but that they had take no action to protect me in the LGBT safe space and many of them had, in fact, piled on. Their response was, "The post was hidden. We're not going to do anything else." Eventually they did ban the poster from the LGBT group. But I had some private communications with (then) hosts who shared some of the equally mysogynistic comments which had been directed at me by other hosts in the discussion about whether they needed to respond to the clearly unacceptable anti-lesbian slam within the LGBT group because I had dared to suggest that the LGBT group (at the time posting regular beefcake threads) did not feel very welcoming to me, as a lesbian..
In this case it was deliberate (because I was pointing it out and it not only continued, but increased). In other cases I really think those engaging in it are clueless.
And in places which make an intentional effort to be a safe space for all genders, it happens far less frequently. I hope we're moving in that direction.
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