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History of Feminism

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Squinch

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5. It is stunning to me that there is a subset of men who are determined to blame women for problems
Sat Jan 18, 2014, 11:40 AM
Jan 2014

that obviously originate with men.

Someone is raped by a man? It's a woman's fault. A culture of vilification that drives rape victims to suicide (men, women, boys AND girls)? That no excuse not to report your rape.

A man feels emasculated because the number of his unearned advantages are becoming fewer and fewer? It's the fault of women, not the fault of the men who assumed those unearned advantages belonged to them in the first place. And not the fault of the men who judge each other's worth on the basis of how much power each has over other people.

An advertising industry (dominated by men) develops a system that portrays men as inept in order to make that group of women whose only intellectual outlet is being "CEO of the house" feel that being "CEO of the house" is a worthwhile pursuit? It's the fault of the women who have nothing to do with the creation of the advertising message aimed at them.

Feminists aren't working hard enough to improve the life expectancy of men? (And don't mention the fact that there are no male-originated organizations or efforts working on this problem.) That means feminists aren't doing feminism right.

All of this points one way to me. There was a serious problem among women, in how they treated themselves and other women, that needed addressing, and women created feminism to address that problem.

Now it is clear that there is a serious problem among men, in how they treat themselves and other men, that needs addressing. When in hell are men going to begin a movement to address these problems of the awful messages men give themselves and each other?

I often see comments about how feminists aren't for equality. They usually boil down to men expecting women to find the solutions for the behavior of men who behave badly, and belittling women when that doesn't happen. It's time that a men's movement arose to take responsibility for the bad messages that men give themselves and to each other.

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