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Flatulo

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5. My wife and I haven't had intercourse in 24 years. After the birth of our son, she found
Tue Jan 14, 2014, 11:28 PM
Jan 2014

intercourse to be very uncomfortable. She also had a hysterectomy shortly thereafter due to a fibroid uterus. She can't produce any vaginal lubricant, and she doesn't find artificial lubricants to be particularly helpful or enjoyable.

This presented me with a decision, of course. I decided that I adore her and that that particular form of gratification just wasn't that important to me. There are other manifestations of physical love for us to enjoy.

The point of the post, which is relevant, is that most of the few people with whom we've shared this information are very quick to rush to suggest a medical 'fix'; "Surely there must be some pill or procedure that will make her want to enjoy intercourse!" Um, no, and even if there were, it's nobodies place to push this on her.

Meanwhile, we're approaching our thirtieth anniversary, happy as clams.

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