History of Feminism
In reply to the discussion: About the hostility toward threads about rape and violence against women [View all]KitSileya
(4,035 posts)Oh, I know where - they're deliberately twisting the words of Schrødinger's rapist, where women correctly say that they don't know which of the men that approach them are rapists, so many keep that fact in the back of their minds when they do meet men that any of them can be a potential rapist. However, so many of them, even reasonable people otherwise, drag out the canard and make it mean that every man has the potential in him to be a rapist, and then they use it to claim that some (read pretty much all) feminists hate men.
And let me tarnish my reputation on this site even further, and give them more ammo (sorry, fellow feminists) - all men and women have the potential in them to be rapists the way all humans have the potential in them to kill someone. Heck, even toddlers have killed people - before the gun ban in GD we'd see news reports of kids and toddlers shooting and killing others accidentally all the time. Sometimes all it takes to be a rapist is lack of communication - you think your partner is a-ok with having sex, but they are unable to consent, or unwilling to refuse consent because they are scared, or feel guilted into it, or pressured - and you assume, and don't ask. Doesn't mean that every time you didn't ask, you raped someone, but how would you know? You didn't ask and they didn't say. A lot of what they do use as ammo against us comes from us trying to explain these nuances, and them twisting it completely into anti-men, anti-womenwhodon'tagreewithus propaganda.