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KitSileya

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36. I just want to know where they take this "all men are potential rapists" crap from.
Sat Jan 4, 2014, 07:47 AM
Jan 2014

Oh, I know where - they're deliberately twisting the words of Schrødinger's rapist, where women correctly say that they don't know which of the men that approach them are rapists, so many keep that fact in the back of their minds when they do meet men that any of them can be a potential rapist. However, so many of them, even reasonable people otherwise, drag out the canard and make it mean that every man has the potential in him to be a rapist, and then they use it to claim that some (read pretty much all) feminists hate men.

And let me tarnish my reputation on this site even further, and give them more ammo (sorry, fellow feminists) - all men and women have the potential in them to be rapists the way all humans have the potential in them to kill someone. Heck, even toddlers have killed people - before the gun ban in GD we'd see news reports of kids and toddlers shooting and killing others accidentally all the time. Sometimes all it takes to be a rapist is lack of communication - you think your partner is a-ok with having sex, but they are unable to consent, or unwilling to refuse consent because they are scared, or feel guilted into it, or pressured - and you assume, and don't ask. Doesn't mean that every time you didn't ask, you raped someone, but how would you know? You didn't ask and they didn't say. A lot of what they do use as ammo against us comes from us trying to explain these nuances, and them twisting it completely into anti-men, anti-womenwhodon'tagreewithus propaganda.

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I have always been puzzled by this. The idea that they can't comprehend that women might want to Squinch Jan 2014 #1
I have noticed some have a tendency to see all posts about them BainsBane Jan 2014 #2
Another permutation of "entitlement." Squinch Jan 2014 #5
They still don't want us to post about feminist issues! They know already, god damnit! boston bean Jan 2014 #9
Yeah, that one got their first hide. A-Schwarzenegger Jan 2014 #3
Must have been the response to me I didn't read BainsBane Jan 2014 #4
Except BS couldn't put two sentences together. A-Schwarzenegger Jan 2014 #6
Obviously that is rape BainsBane Jan 2014 #7
He really didn't know a thing about rape and certainly needs some education! LOL boston bean Jan 2014 #11
That's horribly similar to the poster I was horrified didn't get a hide. KitSileya Jan 2014 #13
can you pm me a link! my jaw is on the floor. boston bean Jan 2014 #14
That is nauseating. Squinch Jan 2014 #15
who said that? PM me, please. Thanks. n/t Tuesday Afternoon Jan 2014 #20
Did you read that dudes last response, boston bean Jan 2014 #8
No, I didn't BainsBane Jan 2014 #10
And pretended to be a black man too JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #28
I'm sick of the pervry bastids ismnotwasm Jan 2014 #12
I think that recent one was the return of fitman from a month or so ago. ScreamingMeemie Jan 2014 #16
Except fitman is obsessed with Seabeyond BainsBane Jan 2014 #17
I have ahard time believing that those remarks are true. My guess is that the men saying that are CTyankee Jan 2014 #22
We need more discussion of these issues, that much is obvious. redqueen Jan 2014 #18
And the position being taken - "YES! We totally agree, already! Now stop flame-baiting and Squinch Jan 2014 #19
Sure are a lot of views on this post... xulamaude Jan 2014 #21
They're not right in the head ismnotwasm Jan 2014 #23
What class of people are you referring to there? whopis01 Jan 2014 #24
By "class", of course xulamaude Jan 2014 #25
More men should speak up about it whopis01 Jan 2014 #29
Yes, but YOU are responding the way a sane, adult person would respond... Squinch Jan 2014 #26
I logged off because JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #27
I sometimes have the feeling that sometimes the hostility is justification intaglio Jan 2014 #30
In the case of the banned troll mentioned above BainsBane Jan 2014 #31
Or there's the "you hate sex"/"you think all sex is rape" strawman, which seems to be partly based nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #33
There is also the unreasoning denial of rape culture ismnotwasm Jan 2014 #32
"If they don't want to get bombed, then they should move to a different country!" nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #35
As always, I ask myself *why* they insist upon taking things so personally. nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #34
I just want to know where they take this "all men are potential rapists" crap from. KitSileya Jan 2014 #36
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