History of Feminism

talk to each other about these things never occurred to me, but I think you have something there.

In some minds, it can't be us discussing things that occur to women with sickening frequency, it must have something to do with them, and therefore be aimed at them and insulting them.

I am choosing not to think that it is because they see too much of themselves in it. I don't want to go there. If that is naïve, I will remain willfully naïve.

But I can see the possibility of an infantile self-centeredness that doesn't consider any possibility other than that the posts must have to do with them, because everything must have to do with them, when of course the posts have nothing to do with them.

The other possibility is that, because something around 25% of women are assaulted in their lifetimes, and who knows how many men, we all must admit that there are quite a lot of men doing the assaulting. The complainers simply find themselves helpless in the face of that number, and don't want to be reminded of it. But that, again, puts us back into an infantile self-centeredness that places their discomfort over the legitimacy of others discussing a common and traumatic occurrence.