My son just told me his wife asked for a divorce this morning. [View all]

Merry Christmas, right?

He also told me she's four months pregnant with their second child.

I'm hoping it's hormones and holiday stress. They've been together for almost 12 years, been married since 2009. I live 2000 miles away and feel awful that I can't be more present for my son, and also fearful that things between them will go horribly south and I'll be estranged from my grandchildren. Right now they're talking about going to counseling, so I hope they follow through with that.

My DIL says she's not attracted to my son any more (or maybe it's that she's finding someone else more attractive, it was hard to tell over the phone with my son this morning). The thing is, they're best friends, they have very similar tastes, interests and goals in life, and they're both very pragmatic, but they both work very stressful jobs. Hers more than my son's. I think she's being unrealistic about her longterm happiness, especially if she's physically attracted to someone else right now, but who can tell that to a 30-year-old? Certainly not her mother-in-law.

Anyway, thanks for listening. I went through divorce myself when my son was young, but I'd gotten married at 18, three days before my son was born, and my husband was a raging alcoholic. Very different marriage circumstances. I'd hoped better for my son and DIL.