Coping with Divorce or Separation

but being able to count on money from him so as to pay the big mortgage, just sounds incredibly risky to me. Are you working? Can you make the mortgage payments without the alimony? Can the property be refinanced at a significantly lower interest rate?

Is the farm the way you expect to make your living? Is that actually realistic?

I'm asking all these questions because it just feels so shaky to me. I understand how hard it would be to give up something you care so much about, but you must be totally realistic about this.

And since he has gone back to drinking, it just feels as if everything could come apart quite easily. A direct deposit is just fine so long as he keeps on working and the money is there. But if he loses this job, if his drinking gets out of control, you could be left without that income. I'm honestly worried about your situation.