Coping with Divorce or Separation

i will insist on a direct deposit from his check or bank account.
he is working, and very well paid. soon to get better paid, i am sure. i have no doubt his next review will bring him a big pity bump.
my only worry is that he is drinking. he has been a high functioning (at work) borderline.
but i think he will take to some "rebellious drinking", stopping for shots with the guys after work because he can.
he is too high up to do anything but fail up, i think. but.....

but yes, the big mortgage is on a 2 flat. all the properties together make up my farm. i need them to stay together.
the other is the family home. a big ole thing that i would likely be smart to sell. but the mortgage on it is small. i have one roommate now, and will likely get a couple more after things shake out.

it is my heart, tho. i have put a llllooottt of myself into it. it is a one of a kind.
and its in pretty good shape. utilities are pretty reasonable. taxes are not that bad here in cook county.