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SheilaT

(23,156 posts)
1. You deserve some kind of response here.
Sat Sep 22, 2012, 12:51 AM
Sep 2012

I myself did not seek out professional therapy. To be honest, a bottle of wine a couple of nights a week was very helpful for me. Not sure I'd really want to recommend it to anyone else.

If you know a good therapist, or feel you can connect to a good one, go ahead, try it.

Going through divorce can completely undermine a person's sense of self, and self-confidence. I know that's what my divorce did for me.

Time does heal. This is the most important thing to know. I am now four years from the divorce being final, so about five and a half years from when I realized the marriage was over. I moved 800 miles to a different part of the country to start a new life, and it was the best thing I could ever have done. It helped that my children were already grown and that I didn't have to be a single mother. I now say that in my most optimistic fantasies that the marriage had not come to an end, I can't imagine I would have persuaded him to move here, and I am very, very glad I live where I now do.

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You deserve some kind of response here. SheilaT Sep 2012 #1
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I am in SantaFe, NM. SheilaT Sep 2012 #3
Big Moves harun Sep 2012 #4
It can be hard. And people who have never really moved SheilaT Sep 2012 #5
Santa Fe is wonderful We are Devo Oct 2012 #7
When I went to Oregon to check it out, SheilaT Oct 2012 #8
Since you seen to be having Callalily Oct 2012 #6
I'm seeing a counselor and it does help neversaydie Oct 2012 #9
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