Bereavement

Attilatheblond

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49. Take some of the love you had for her, love that feels like it has no place to go now, and spend that on yourself

Sun May 24, 2026, 09:45 AM

18 hrs ago

Be very kind and forgiving to yourself, as you are to others. It's a big page to turn when a parent passes.

I still 'talk' to my husband and to my mom. Don't know if they get the messages, but it helps me to keep a little conversation going.

Sending strength and a offer to listen to you. Old, but I still have broad shoulders and they absorb tears well.

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Mom died March 1. Today, I got the Medicare summary [View all] Maeve Saturday OP

Deepest condolences, Maeve. SheltieLover Saturday #1

Stay strong, it's just so tough to deal with Walleye Saturday #2

This is for you malaise Saturday #3

I understand. my mom passed a few years back but I still feel a tug when riversedge Saturday #4

🫂 OGBuzz Saturday #5

All normal in a not normal setting. You get feelings you have never had before. My sisters were sad when twodogsbarking Saturday #6

so sorry for your loss. lostincalifornia Saturday #7

i am so sorry for the loss of your mom .... dawn5651 Saturday #8

I finished with my Mom's Medicaid summary slightlv Saturday #9

Oh, my. I think your mom is still with you. That is my plan, to always be with my children Joinfortmill 21 hrs ago #48

My condolences on the loss of your mom karynnj Saturday #10

Did you co-sign for her care on admission sheet tavernier Saturday #11

It's ok, she left a comfortable inheritance Maeve Saturday #13

She would have been 94 a month later--thank you all! Maeve Saturday #12

Nothing really more to add to all of the sweet sentiments. hamsterjill Saturday #14

Bless your heart, dear Maeve Grim Chieftain Saturday #15

Very sorry for your loss dlk Saturday #16

... alwaysinasnit Saturday #17

I am so sorry for your loss. stage left Saturday #18

I'm sorry, Maeve. Diamond_Dog Saturday #19

I am so sorry for your loss. That finality does hit hard. Stay strong. LoisB Saturday #20

The Republican Mantra popsdenver Saturday #21

That $1736 is probably the Medicare Part A deductible for 2026? Bengus81 Saturday #22

Yep, exactly. She had a supplemental plan, too Maeve Saturday #23

This illustrates how absurd our HC system is. The Medicare reimbursement ... Bluetus Saturday #29

Not going to get any argument from me Maeve Saturday #31

There was one year there were nothing but no-name (junk) companies on Obamacare in my county Bluetus Saturday #34

No apologies needed Maeve Saturday #36

Grief is hard cate94 Saturday #24

I'm so sorry for your loss, Maeve. EuterpeThelo Saturday #25

I am so sorry for your loss, Maeve MIButterfly Saturday #26

I'm very sorry for your loss. yardwork Saturday #27

I am so sorry Maeve irisblue Saturday #28

Deepest Condolences Deep State Witch Saturday #30

Glad to see you emerging from a long ordeal and coming out into the light BumRushDaShow Saturday #32

Thanks, a chara! Maeve Saturday #37

Went through this in 2022, Maeve TBF Saturday #33

Appreciate hearing the stories Maeve Saturday #38

You have my condolences IbogaProject Saturday #35

The bills have all been covered, thankfully Maeve Saturday #39

She probably wasn't worried about you two. Hope22 Saturday #42

We felt the same getting my mother's final bill. mgardener Saturday #40

My heart is with you. Hope22 Saturday #41

I'm so sorry, Maeve. Silver Gaia Saturday #43

I'm right there with you, Maeve... COL Mustard Saturday #44

I m so sorry. murielm99 Yesterday #45

Brings it all back. Aussie105 Yesterday #46

Hugs Joinfortmill 21 hrs ago #47

Take some of the love you had for her, love that feels like it has no place to go now, and spend that on yourself Attilatheblond 18 hrs ago #49

I'm so sorry to hear about this. Nothing prepares us. littlemissmartypants 18 hrs ago #50