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sinkingfeeling

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34. I'm so sorry. It will be okay. I went through the same guilt when my
Mon Oct 28, 2024, 06:33 AM
Oct 2024

Mom finally passed at age 96. She had lost her ability to walk and was blind. Unfortunately, her mind was still sharp. She was in assisted living, then fell and broke her hip. I drove to Florida to see her, but she didn't know me. I stayed 9 days and had to go back to work. My sister called that she had died when I was about 30 miles from home. I never shed a tear as I believe my prayers were answered. But the guilt remains.

Hugs to you.

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... Skittles Oct 2024 #1
I know Glamrock Oct 2024 #3
it's hard Skittles Oct 2024 #6
Agreed Glamrock Oct 2024 #39
"...sometimes life is just too painful..." NOT selfish duhneece Oct 2024 #46
the adage "time heals all wounds" is not true Skittles Oct 2024 #57
Thanks for helping me understand what Robin Williams MadameButterfly Oct 2024 #22
it drives me nuts when ppl use him as a poster child for depression. mopinko Oct 2024 #35
That is rough peacebuzzard Oct 2024 #2
Thank you! Glamrock Oct 2024 #4
That sucks man. Sorry you have to go through that. Eko Oct 2024 #5
What a perfectly glorious and comforting message Easterncedar Oct 2024 #12
Thank you for this MadameButterfly Oct 2024 #23
"The cosmos is within us. We are made of star-stuff. We are a way for the universe to know itself" Ocelot II Oct 2024 #42
Exactly what I was thinking watching this...we are made of star stuff Deuxcents Oct 2024 #47
I'm so sorry, Glamrock. HeartsCanHope Oct 2024 #7
I am so sorry. Just so very sorry. Silver Gaia Oct 2024 #8
Get a hospice referral. HappyLarge Oct 2024 #9
2nd this. hospice is wonderful. mopinko Oct 2024 #36
I am so so sorry Glamrock irisblue Oct 2024 #10
I feel for you. Try to be kind to yourself now and in the time to come. Easterncedar Oct 2024 #11
So sorry! PortTack Oct 2024 #13
No words Glamrock... IcyPeas Oct 2024 #14
My dad had Parkinson's with Lewy body also. Dear_Prudence Oct 2024 #15
I am with you Cailinrain Oct 2024 #16
I am so sorry. Please do not beat yourself up. You wanted her to go for her not for you. Sending you a big hug. LoisB Oct 2024 #17
Aloha e Glam. mahina Oct 2024 #18
It was my/our turn a little over 20 years ago DFW Oct 2024 #19
I know those regrets that you are experiencing and mine were amplified by the fact TexasTowelie Oct 2024 #20
You are welcome to vent as much as you need. We are here for you. alwaysinasnit Oct 2024 #21
Please do vent as you need to, it will help. Think. Again. Oct 2024 #24
My virtual arms are around you, glam UpInArms Oct 2024 #25
My dad is dying and my mother will not last MadameButterfly Oct 2024 #26
My Dad is dying and my mother won't last MadameButterfly Oct 2024 #27
I don't know why this posted twice MadameButterfly Oct 2024 #29
So sorry, Glamrock gademocrat7 Oct 2024 #28
Strength and Honor. WheelWalker Oct 2024 #30
My father stopped eating/drinking mnhtnbb Oct 2024 #31
❤️ underpants Oct 2024 #32
Please don't beat yourself up snpsmom Oct 2024 #33
I'm so sorry. It will be okay. I went through the same guilt when my sinkingfeeling Oct 2024 #34
You have been wonderful to your mom. Joinfortmill Oct 2024 #37
Deleted Joinfortmill Oct 2024 #38
We're never ready to lose mom XanaDUer2 Oct 2024 #40
Hugs Sea A Chell Oct 2024 #41
I'm so sorry. Ocelot II Oct 2024 #43
Caregiving is the hardest job in the world. Hope22 Oct 2024 #44
Glam, I am so sorry Diamond_Dog Oct 2024 #45
My Dear Glam... 2naSalit Oct 2024 #48
My mil had a stroke and was in care for 13 years. BoomaofBandM Oct 2024 #49
We cared for my father in law 12 years ago mountain grammy Oct 2024 #50
So saddened to hear what you are struggling with, Glam SheltieLover Oct 2024 #51
Your post honors her long and well-lived time on this planet jmbar2 Oct 2024 #52
I feel your pain. AmBlue Oct 2024 #53
I'm so sorry. Losing a parent is difficult under any circumstances, and we all cope the best we can. Lonestarblue Oct 2024 #54
💔... You are not alone. I'm so sorry for your pain. 1WorldHope Oct 2024 #55
Glamrock AKwannabe Oct 2024 #56
I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. My wife is going through her last, terrible days. Hassler Oct 2024 #58
No judgments, Glam. Schlocko Nov 16 #59
Felt That Way About My Dad ProfessorGAC Nov 17 #60
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