Parenting

You should not have to give up your dining room for him. He can move in with your father-in-law or find his own place. Period.

I get so tired of tales of adult children who can't make it on their own, and of the parents who rescue them. I moved out on my own when I was 17 years old, rented an apartment, and never looked back.

My own sons have been independent and on their own for a very long time. I'm especially thinking of my younger son, who chose to continue supporting himself by delivering pizzas even after he'd graduated cum laude from the University of Tulsa. Sigh. Surely he could have done something else with his degree.

But, and here's the important point, he knew that neither I, nor his father (we were divorced by then) would support him. He'd graduated college, and so he was on his own. He supported himself delivering pizza, which I consider absolutely a good way to earn a living.