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Mental Health Support

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5. No more conditions, no more negotiations, no more agreements.

Reply to Maraya1969 (Original post)

Sat Nov 9, 2013, 01:32 PM

Nov 2013

None of those will have any true meaning as long as he is untreated bipolar or an active alcoholic. He has to be 100 percent OUT OF YOUR LIFE.

He has to deal with himself, heal himself, sober himself, with no help from you. Doing that will be extremely difficult for him, and it may not happen. But as long as he's counting on you to participate in any way, it will definitely not happen, and he will bring you down with him.

You have to let go of him completely.

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I am having a real hard time forgiving and deciding what to do with my "boyfriend" [View all] Maraya1969 Nov 2013 OP

This may be his 'bottom,' elleng Nov 2013 #1

I guess I kind of feel the because this has been his life for so long that he will not be able to Maraya1969 Nov 2013 #3

Listen to what Tobin said, elleng Nov 2013 #4

You are too kind Maraya. Literally. Tobin S. Nov 2013 #2

+1 LiberalEsto Nov 2013 #6

No more conditions, no more negotiations, no more agreements. enough Nov 2013 #5

Job one would seem to be protecting yourself...physically, economically, and emotionally HereSince1628 Nov 2013 #7

"If he doesn't agree to ..." Tell him to leave you alone. Now. Not later. AnotherMcIntosh Nov 2013 #8

Thank yo all for the great information and help. I've decided to pack his things in the car and Maraya1969 Nov 2013 #9

what a horrible situation otherone Nov 2013 #10

I don't know, the advice I gave to a guy who talked to me after group while IP... moriah Nov 2013 #11

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