Mental Health Support

If I may suggest it- when approaching the "shit drawers" keep the
conversation about you. Talk about YOUR shit drawers, not his.
If you stay calm and just discuss those aspects about yourself
as though you were simply an observer- he will hear it and hopefully
recognize some things about himself.

Don't react to any of his feedback with anything other than
"You know, I will think about that- thanks."

If he feels attacked, no progress can be made.
Make a list of the contents in YOUR shit drawer.

Talk about them one at a time, not in a 2 hour session.
Try to keep your observations about yourself to a 15 minute share and walk away
with a "thanks for listening" I needed to talk about that.

Try it- it works.
But you MUST be self disciplined about it.
DO not let it turn into how HE fits into those drawers.
Instead, try to emphasize something good about your candy drawer with him,
which is what brought you together in the first place!

BHN