I have been in the exact same place in regards to avoiding medical care because of a dislike of doctors. I have always had weird health issues, including high BP back in high school. I basically quit going entirely after I was 21/22, because no one could force to. I think the only time I saw a doctor between 22 and around 34/35 was an ER visit for a badly sprained ankle, and even that was after limping around on drugstore crutches for a month.
I'm sorry for the side effects. I had a bit of that earlier, I don't know if it was because I was starting on lamictal or because I was justvsonstressed out. Either way, not something a guy finds very comfortable to live with psychologically.
Ok, here's my "true confession" about something I did last week by accident ... I lost the bottle of lamictal I had refilled the prior week. I took my last dose of 300 on Monday morning from the prior bottle. Tues was a frenzied hunt to find it with no success. But, since it takes time to ramp up the dose, I thought no big deal, it can wait until I can get to Costco for a refill - which due to my schedule wasn't until Thursday afternoon. Seriously bad idea. Tuesday night, I started to feel cold and just not right, like I was getting a virus. Wednesday same but worse, and I was sure I was getting the flu, Thursday morning was a chilled to the bone feeling along with my hands so shaky I had trouble typing or holding the phone. I finally put 2 and 2 together and realized it was withdrawal. So I left work 3 hours early for Costco, and literally popped the next dose before I left the store. The side effects were gone by evening, thank god.
Powerful stuff not to be messed around with.