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30. Merry Christmas, Tuesday Afternoon!

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Sat Dec 24, 2011, 06:21 PM

Dec 2011

I was just looking for a place to post... My 70 y.o. mother (with malignant narcissism) just manufactured the first major crisis of Christmas.

I'm living with her temporarily and after living far for 25 years... I've just come to learn that what's wrong with her has a name... Narcissistic Personality Disorder... And, I'm dealing with the shock of it every day as her adult son. Her health is declining and that makes her nastier.

Had I known anything about NPD two years ago... I never would have made the choice to move back and help out.

I hope you find strength to distance yourself and start working on how her behavior has shaped your own behaviors. I'm still in the seething angry phase of realizing that everything I thought about my childhood was a lie.

Good luck!

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This message was self-deleted by its author [View all] Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 OP

My parents aren't like that, but I've met people like that before. Tobin S. Dec 2011 #1

Tobin, Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #2

IT seems to me that you are not getting the point. MedicalAdmin Dec 2011 #24

Yes. She has always been the way you describe, to a degree, EFerrari Dec 2011 #3

thanks for reading/listening Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #4

Yep. Talking on the phone is mostly listening on the phone EFerrari Dec 2011 #5

yes, you are right -- Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #6

That is exactly like my wifes relationship with her mom. MedicalAdmin Dec 2011 #25

Yes....very challenging - more complex than simply narcissism in my case - NRaleighLiberal Dec 2011 #7

yes, very challenging. My mom is 74 and this past year Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #8

Right back at you, friend! It is a really tough time.... NRaleighLiberal Dec 2011 #9

also, I can relate to your brother because, as the only daughter, I know the care-giving role will Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #11

It is hard - he is in FL, me in NC - we've lived away from each other for many years, NRaleighLiberal Dec 2011 #14

makes the Holiday season challenging to say the least Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #16

Do you remember how on "Everybody Loves Raymond", his parents were kicked out EFerrari Dec 2011 #10

My mom is cagey and clever - I suspect that she comes across very different there NRaleighLiberal Dec 2011 #12

So true! EFerrari Dec 2011 #13

Yes,,,, KarenS Dec 2011 #15

yes, the normal give and take of a relationship. Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #17

I don't know that this is a Mental Health issue postatomic Dec 2011 #18

confusion here because of your subjectline Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #19

Narcissism is a mental health issue Tobin S. Dec 2011 #20

yes, thanks. Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #21

You're in the right place. Tobin S. Dec 2011 #22

you are fine here. mopinko Dec 2011 #23

My apologies postatomic Dec 2011 #31

no, but I have an aging ex-spouse with Narcissistic Personality Disorder who still... grasswire Dec 2011 #26

Yes. My mother probably has narcissistic personality disorder. murielm99 Dec 2011 #27

This message was self-deleted by its author HereSince1628 Dec 2011 #28

If we are talkng about parents, one thing that worked for me to a degree EFerrari Dec 2011 #29

My therapist taught me coping techniques. murielm99 Dec 2011 #33

My mom not only didn't have good boundaries or help me get them EFerrari Dec 2011 #34

Merry Christmas, Tuesday Afternoon! targetpractice Dec 2011 #30

thanks Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #32

My parents are deceased, but I do have an aging, narcisistic sister who just "disowned" me whathehell Jan 2012 #35