Really worried about my wife and also myself [View all]

Im typing on my phone and some talk to text so forgive my run ons and spelling.

She just had major neck surgery and they of course gave her oxycodone. She is a former addict and she was being super careful about the meds, not taking her anxiety valium in between doses because she was afraid of the breathing depression...i get it, but I have no idea how many psych meds shes on, and had no idea she was cold turkey off anxiety meds for over a week.
It all came to a head in the kitchen when I was boiling veggies wrong, and shit went sideways.
She got mad and stares doing a whole meal for herself while talking about how i cant take care of her and she should do it all or hire someone...and then mocked me because she criticize me and said now you're gonna cry about it and its all about you.
I told her im not crying anf im fine but she can let me handle it and the next thing I know shes got me pushed against the freezer and garbage can and on the kitchen floor with her hands on my throat and face

I got to my phone and decided to call her therapist so she couldn't hear and she was no help.told me to leave the house...
Meanwhile im screaming cuz shes on me again and then hit herself saying my name and if I call the cops we'll both go to jail...

An hour past the escalation, shes in her room and is saying she will sell her stuff and leave...im not afraid of her but im feeling like she needs better care than I can give her right now. If I say anything about it to her dr idk if theyd put her in a place or not. She is making the suicidal threats but how much if that is post abuse guilt?

Ive been abused before but not like that. Weve had 2 other incidents in 3 years and two of them were due to medical procedures that messed up her balance. She does have autism too so the inability to understand my social cues and regulate her emotions (anger especially) is there.

I don't want her to leave when she's got a 7 inch gach in her neck and 13 weeks of recovery ahead. But I feel like it's out of my wheelhouse...

I hate that my first response when I get hurt or something is to "worry" about the other person.
I also have a dr appointment tomorrow with my own physician, um not going to be able to hide the bruises on my face and neck...


WTF do I do ???