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9. At the end of the day there's no way to control them -
Tue Sep 3, 2024, 07:55 PM
Sep 2024

only to control you and your reactions. So, if you are feeling frustrated it might help to step back and think about what is next.

Try to break things down into smaller pieces so they aren't overwhelming. If family is stressful, just take a break. You don't have to explain anything to them. They'll be there when you are ready to try dealing w/them again.

If the partner is really the root of the issue it may be time to start researching exit strategies. I was lucky when I left my narcissistic first husband because I was the bigger earner - this was many years ago. I moved out, found an attorney, and mostly stayed at work (more money, plus we had excellent security in that building).

I'm not sure if you work now, or are able to? There may be shelters in your area if you don't have funds. I was able to use resources at a local shelter in terms of finding support groups etc. But they also had places to stay for folks who just needed to get out for safety reasons and didn't have funds.

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