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Mental Health Support

Proud to be Woke

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16. I recommend couples therapy, and if she won't do it..

Reply to Model35mech (Original post)

Tue Jul 16, 2024, 01:18 PM

Jul 2024

Then tell her that you want to live alone and you deserve peace at your age.

I had to set really restricted boundaries with my own sister last year when she got really abusive verbally and emotionally. I love her but cannot stand to spend much time around her. Sometimes it is necessary so that we can survive and thrive. There is no need to continue to put up with abuse from someone who thinks they have a ticket to do so and no apologies.

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It shouldn't be like this. Really. I shouldn't take it personal but I did and I still do [View all] Model35mech Jul 2024 OP

I strongly suggest breaking up with this person. Ocelot II Jul 2024 #1

Ain't likely to happen. If I was 30, maybe. But at 71 NOT. Model35mech Jul 2024 #3

Money versus your health. tazkcmo Jul 2024 #23

At 71, survival cannot be separated from a person's assets. Model35mech Jul 2024 #25

You do you, as they say. tazkcmo Jul 2024 #26

It's ok. I appreciate your desire to help Model35mech Jul 2024 #28

Venting always helps. Even if you only do it in your head. SlimJimmy Jul 2024 #31

Thanks for your grace. tazkcmo Jul 2024 #32

I'm really sorry 😞 FirstLight Jul 2024 #2

This Is Abuse Deep State Witch Jul 2024 #4

My advice is have it out with her tell her how you feel and if she doesn't stop, something is gonna change Walleye Jul 2024 #5

Your boundaries are up to you to set. Think. Again. Jul 2024 #6

Your partner sounds like a bully crimycarny Jul 2024 #7

And you are with her why? flying_wahini Jul 2024 #8

Because I Am The AssHole, I suppose Model35mech Jul 2024 #10

I avoid interaction XanaDUer2 Jul 2024 #33

I'm yelled at constantly XanaDUer2 Jul 2024 #9

I can imagine Model35mech Jul 2024 #11

I'm disabled stuck not having enough XanaDUer2 Jul 2024 #13

I wish your endurance the best Model35mech Jul 2024 #15

Have you tried couples therapy? WhiteTara Jul 2024 #12

Ya, it's all about skills and coping tactics Model35mech Jul 2024 #17

I'm sorry. orange jar Jul 2024 #14

Thanks. I guess I'm looking to dump this feeling so I should apologize Model35mech Jul 2024 #18

No need to apologize. orange jar Jul 2024 #19

I recommend couples therapy, and if she won't do it.. Proud to be Woke Jul 2024 #16

That'd be great if I could toss more than half of my life in a dumpster Model35mech Jul 2024 #21

It sounds to me as if she is very unhappy with herself. It is easier to lash out at you than to look in the mirror. LoisB Jul 2024 #20

Just curious. Is she a heavy drinker? I was married to an alcoholic wife for 15 years. BamaRefugee Jul 2024 #22

No. IMO, her problem is a lot of being a childlike 76 year old Model35mech Jul 2024 #24

When she starts- calmly put your hand up & say, Quakerfriend Jul 2024 #27

Is there anyway you get away from her for a few days? MLAA Jul 2024 #29

I 'could' go sleep in the woods. I don't think I will. Model35mech Jul 2024 #30