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Showing Original Post only (View all)It shouldn't be like this. Really. I shouldn't take it personal but I did and I still do [View all]
My partner has an appointment for her hair at 2:15 2 hours and 15 minutes from when I came in the door.
I stopped my day at 11:15 this morning to be sure I got back in time.
As I came home, I thought I'd do her a favor... I stopped and got KFC for supper.
So, I pull off the street and into the garage. I do this pretty much every day. This is NORMAL! in my life
I walk to the back door. Three steps in she's yelling at me for putting the car in the garage. (But you know...She doesn't need to leave for her hair appointment until 5-10 minutes before 2) and SHE is the driver who has rubbed the right side of the car on the bricks of the side of the house 7 times in 6 yrs! The repetitive slow learner really ISN'T ME.
This sort of ambush upon coming home happens almost everyday. It's a problem with the printer, or the computer, or she can't find something in her household records, or the doors on the cabinets aren't closing, or the lawn mower wouldn't start, or other shit that suburban adults are supposed to be able to deal with, if only by credit card. And it is too too often that I don't get a chance to walk in and set what is in my hands onto the kitchen counter and take a breath before she's on me. This time, I brought her home carry out because SHE is complaining about doing COMMON THINGS THAT ADULTS DO, like make a meal.
It's come to feel like when I walk in the door I'm advancing into the striking distance of an ambush predator. And I'm just doing what SHE has trained me to do.
I KNEW she had an appointment in a bit more than 2 hours. And the answer from her IS ALWAYS(!) her getting PISSED OFF at me because I'm a sexist who doesn't think that "WOMEN" can back up a car. She insists on backing it, without looking at the video screen on the dash or the side mirroes.
Usually, if the car doesn't go immediately into the garage she's usually on top of my case. If I don't put the garage door down, she's ALWAYS on my case, BECAUSE, don't I know that the black kids from up the street in Milwaukee are going to come and attack the car and the contents of the garage? And SHE thinks she's sensitive to race issues!
We've spent over $3000 on repairs to the body and paint in the past 3 years. So much money that last time I refused to contribute to the fix. I told her there is really NO POINT in repairing what she will only damage again in 6-9 months. She went to the Insureance last time, and they raised the annual charge, by $1000 I get that she CAN'T reliably back up the car.
BUT I also am very tired of being yelled at for leaving the car on the driveway and not closing the garage door.
Being borderline, I'm really on the verge of another episode of taking the scissors to my forearms
