Fathers Day and I'm done. [View all]

My father was a controlling, authoritarian, malignant narcissist. And I was his victim, the family scapegoat.

He died 10 years ago. I take some solace that he's cremated and still in the attic of my estranged sister.

I realize how many years I wasted trying to understand the dynamic.

I have released myself from his anger, his actions, his need to hurt me.

I went to therapy twice a week for 3-1/2 years but left with unfinished business.

This past year, I focused, I relived, and I moved on.

Not that I've forgiven him. But as we say on DU, he is no longer living in my head rent-free.