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3Hotdogs

(13,767 posts)
11. What did you do wrong?
Mon Feb 26, 2024, 12:34 AM
Feb 2024

Nothing.

Some people are just fucked up. My mother was one of 9 children and my grandmother was overworked, overwrought and just plain fucked up.

Then we go to why my grandmother was fucked up. Her mother was killed when she fell into an abandoned mine and died of her injuries, three days later. So my grandmother was an orphan at an early age.



So then we go to my mother, Somehow, she overcame the effects of the shit she experienced and carried with her. I was lucky to have two of the best parents I could have wished for. We were among the poorest people in town. I didn't get the pony, or the new bike or whatever. But I was loved. They cared.

So that brings us to you. Give up on your family and work to make life as pleasant for others as you can. As a line in a bluegrass album I have goes, "I'd rather stay by the side of the road and help some pilgrim along life's way."

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Hugggggggs. Let them stew in their own toxicity and hatred. You are a niyad Feb 2024 #1
I had an appointment with my therapist.on Thursday. He said they were evil. I was sexual abused by my mother's mom debm55 Feb 2024 #4
What did you do wrong? 3Hotdogs Feb 2024 #11
Everything you said! niyad Feb 2024 #16
One thing you need to understand is that some people are, for whatever niyad Feb 2024 #17
Have you looked into re-parenting? limbicnuminousity Feb 2024 #23
I'm so sorry, debm55. Nt spooky3 Feb 2024 #2
You seem level and very cool. Kath2 Feb 2024 #3
Thank you Kath2. My husband made me a craft room for my birthday. He was in pre med at Cornel Medical school, He drove debm55 Feb 2024 #8
How nice, a craft room for your Bday! Gosh, I've always wanted such a room for something like this. What a SWBTATTReg Feb 2024 #13
You are a good person MN2theMax Feb 2024 #5
TY MN2thMax. debm55 Feb 2024 #6
You need people around you who care for you as much as you care for others. CousinIT Feb 2024 #7
What a great post, CousinIT! The "Toxicity Team". That's a good way to describe it. calimary Feb 2024 #21
First and foremost..Love yourself. You cannot change other people, even family. Deuxcents Feb 2024 #9
Wishing you a very Happy Birthday, and a wonderful coming year. niyad Feb 2024 #15
Happy Birthday. Deuxcents. Wishing you love debm55 Feb 2024 #18
Happy Birthday, Deuxcents! calimary Feb 2024 #22
Toxic people in your life . . . who needs them? Aussie105 Feb 2024 #10
Wishing you emotional and physical healing. moonbeam23 Feb 2024 #12
debm55, if you are into self-help type books,,,, KarenS Feb 2024 #14
I heard of the book, but never read it. I thought I Could change them on my own. The day I was told that I was not able debm55 Feb 2024 #19
Stop engaging them. Stay away and off the MOMFUDSKI Feb 2024 #20
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