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Goddessartist

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18. We had a great Thanksgiving!
Mon Dec 4, 2023, 08:18 AM
Dec 2023

My Z (hubby), one of my daughters, our son in law, and two grandchildren were here for Thanksgiving. Not sure about Christmas. I'm basically anti religion (see all of the harm it does) but it'll be something similar.

I'm the 7th of 8 children, and don't speak really with my one surviving brother - I won't have anything to do with anyone who likes Trump or is fervently anti-abortion or some such nonsense. I wouldn't speak with them for almost a decade - well I did speak with two of them a tiny bit, but they're the only ones who stood up for me when I was attacked by the rest. Family dynamics can be weird. I'm just glad I broke the cycle and never abused my children in any way.

I would just not have anything to do with your family. But that's the way I am. Quintuple Scorpio here - when I am hurt/angry I cut people out very easily. Very easy not to look back.

I thought about suicide for years and years and was finally hospitalized for it. Family trauma. I was diagnosed with Major Depression, and childhood PTSD. I'm doing much better - grateful for my Z as he was a mental health specialist for 30 years. How else could he deal with me?

Sending you all of my love,

Rebecca

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I'm so very sorry deb. Goddessartist Dec 2023 #1
thank you, thank you but I feel guilty about doing it. There was one more---- debm55 Dec 2023 #2
Oh my friend Goddessartist Dec 2023 #19
What did you do for the holidays? Last year I crochet four queen size afghans . Was told it was Jesus' birthday and they debm55 Dec 2023 #3
You are my Hero Grey Dec 2023 #16
We had a great Thanksgiving! Goddessartist Dec 2023 #18
So sorry for you. applegrove Dec 2023 #4
Thank you. I am trying to hang in there debm55 Dec 2023 #5
As they say"when you are going through hell, KEEP GOING!" applegrove Dec 2023 #7
Oh Deb, I wish I could give you a big hug. badhair77 Dec 2023 #6
Thank you, badhair77 debm55 Dec 2023 #8
I'm so sorry Deb. Diamond_Dog Dec 2023 #9
Thank you Diamond_Dog. When I post in the Lounge I sometimes leave out "the rest of the story" However, Christmas and debm55 Dec 2023 #12
I personally know how difficult it is to deal with trauma from this type of family situation. democrank Dec 2023 #10
Thank you for your support. debm55 Dec 2023 #13
There are a lot of evil people in your life. Deuxcents Dec 2023 #11
The sad thing I was so together--left at 18 went to college on a scholarship, got married. But I was brought up on Honor debm55 Dec 2023 #14
Your self esteem has been compromised so it's time to take it back Deuxcents Dec 2023 #15
You are loved here. multigraincracker Dec 2023 #17
My mom had terrible parents. hunter Dec 2023 #20
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