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debm55

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8. I have always been her emotional go to person. She has told me, I took her husband away from her as

Thu Mar 2, 2023, 06:01 PM

Mar 2023

he loved me more than he loved her. My father never sexually abused me, but my grandmother(mother's mom) did. My mother's response--she was peculiar. She has always gaslighted me and still does. When I explain the facts, that's when she calls me every name in the book. She never did wished me a happy birthday, the conversation was all about her. Like it always is. Mom, I am 32, thought I was pregnant and took test, Mom, they told me I am going through menopause. Mother--what do you want me to do about it? Slam of phone.
I cried.

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I was always her mother. [View all] debm55 Mar 2023 OP

I'm sorry and belated happy birthday 🎈 questionseverything Mar 2023 #1

Are you ok? kozar Mar 2023 #2

Kozar, I don't ever feel okay. I try as hard as I can to make it one day at a time. I do have a debm55 Mar 2023 #5

But you can train yourself to stop thinking all thoughts. For periods of time Maraya1969 Mar 2023 #11

I will try your suggestion. Thank you. debm55 Mar 2023 #12

I'm so happy you have a wonderful husband. That's amazing, considering everything. pnwmom Mar 2023 #29

I was engaged at 18 to an abuser. Sent him back his ring in the mail, as I was afraid of what he debm55 Mar 2023 #34

You don't have to do any of that if you don't want to. Your primary obligation pnwmom Mar 2023 #38

I hope sharing this helps you some. KarenS Mar 2023 #3

why do you put up with her Skittles Mar 2023 #4

Skittles, I stopped contact. When I was 18, I moved 100 miles away and went to Penn State. She debm55 Mar 2023 #6

I can sympathize Skittles Mar 2023 #7

I have always been her emotional go to person. She has told me, I took her husband away from her as debm55 Mar 2023 #8

try to realize she is mentally ill Skittles Mar 2023 #15

If her mother abused you sexually, wnylib Mar 2023 #35

Sending you hugs MLAA Mar 2023 #9

I would stop talking to her. Karadeniz Mar 2023 #10

Happy belated birthday! Sending you good wishes for some personal peace. Lonestarblue Mar 2023 #13

Hugggggs. Wishing you a belated Happy Birthday, and the gift of peace. niyad Mar 2023 #14

Wishing you a belated Happy Birthday Rhiannon12866 Mar 2023 #16

Happy SpamWyzer Mar 2023 #17

I'm truly sorry that you are putting yourself through this neglect judesedit Mar 2023 #18

Happy Birthday to you debm55. MontanaMama Mar 2023 #19

They don't separate the categories of personality disorder out the way they used to. pnwmom Mar 2023 #24

Yes, it's sometimes a long journey. Joinfortmill Mar 2023 #28

Wishing you gademocrat7 Mar 2023 #20

Happy birthday 🎁🎂🎊 live love laugh Mar 2023 #21

Damn, I hope you take care of yourself n/t hibbing Mar 2023 #22

I am so sorry you had to deal with a lifetime of abuse. It cannot be minimized. It takes a toll that Evolve Dammit Mar 2023 #23

You are an amazing person people Mar 2023 #25

I guess it worked differently for me. As I went to Penn State for 2 years and switched to teaching. debm55 Mar 2023 #36

Sending you prayers and hugs. Joinfortmill Mar 2023 #26

Having had a parent who was a narcissist, I understand the guilt they can inspire. pnwmom Mar 2023 #27

I've broken free of this kind of craziness a few times in my life... hunter Mar 2023 #30

I totally understand. Duppers Mar 2023 #31

I feel your pain. Hang tough debm55, take care of YOURSELF. LoisB Mar 2023 #32

Ah, but you write such beautiful posts over in the Lounge, asking us lovely questions. NNadir Mar 2023 #33

Happy belated Birthday. 🎉🎂 onecaliberal Mar 2023 #37

I completely empathize with your situation. virgdem Mar 2023 #39