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Mental Health Support

Tuesday Afternoon

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16. makes the Holiday season challenging to say the least

Reply to NRaleighLiberal (Reply #14)

Sat Dec 17, 2011, 11:12 PM

Dec 2011

I understand about the manipulation. Mother is very good at it and knows how to use money as a motivator and a guilt trip.

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My parents aren't like that, but I've met people like that before. Tobin S. Dec 2011 #1

Tobin, Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #2

IT seems to me that you are not getting the point. MedicalAdmin Dec 2011 #24

Yes. She has always been the way you describe, to a degree, EFerrari Dec 2011 #3

thanks for reading/listening Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #4

Yep. Talking on the phone is mostly listening on the phone EFerrari Dec 2011 #5

yes, you are right -- Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #6

That is exactly like my wifes relationship with her mom. MedicalAdmin Dec 2011 #25

Yes....very challenging - more complex than simply narcissism in my case - NRaleighLiberal Dec 2011 #7

yes, very challenging. My mom is 74 and this past year Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #8

Right back at you, friend! It is a really tough time.... NRaleighLiberal Dec 2011 #9

also, I can relate to your brother because, as the only daughter, I know the care-giving role will Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #11

It is hard - he is in FL, me in NC - we've lived away from each other for many years, NRaleighLiberal Dec 2011 #14

makes the Holiday season challenging to say the least Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #16

Do you remember how on "Everybody Loves Raymond", his parents were kicked out EFerrari Dec 2011 #10

My mom is cagey and clever - I suspect that she comes across very different there NRaleighLiberal Dec 2011 #12

So true! EFerrari Dec 2011 #13

Yes,,,, KarenS Dec 2011 #15

yes, the normal give and take of a relationship. Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #17

I don't know that this is a Mental Health issue postatomic Dec 2011 #18

confusion here because of your subjectline Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #19

Narcissism is a mental health issue Tobin S. Dec 2011 #20

yes, thanks. Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #21

You're in the right place. Tobin S. Dec 2011 #22

you are fine here. mopinko Dec 2011 #23

My apologies postatomic Dec 2011 #31

no, but I have an aging ex-spouse with Narcissistic Personality Disorder who still... grasswire Dec 2011 #26

Yes. My mother probably has narcissistic personality disorder. murielm99 Dec 2011 #27

This message was self-deleted by its author HereSince1628 Dec 2011 #28

If we are talkng about parents, one thing that worked for me to a degree EFerrari Dec 2011 #29

My therapist taught me coping techniques. murielm99 Dec 2011 #33

My mom not only didn't have good boundaries or help me get them EFerrari Dec 2011 #34

Merry Christmas, Tuesday Afternoon! targetpractice Dec 2011 #30

thanks Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2011 #32

My parents are deceased, but I do have an aging, narcisistic sister who just "disowned" me whathehell Jan 2012 #35