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SWBTATTReg

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20. I do enjoy (or did) getting w/ people, and you don't really have to drink (alcohol that is, I can,
Sun Jun 19, 2022, 08:39 AM
Jun 2022

but I don't a lot of times). I usually bought diet coke by the case/12 pack for the party holders, so I had a ready supply of what I wanted to drink.

The problem I have is usually you almost always have someone (or multiple people) monopolizing the conversations, and you usually don't even get a chance to even say anything. I find this true in a lot of situations, and I do find a lot of people are pretty selfish about it, and it is kind of disappointing.

Some people are pretty good about letting others engage in the surrounding conversations, but a lot of people aren't so willing, to, I guess, give up the limelight.

I think you (bif) did pretty good, I'm sure your neighbor understood that everyone's situation is different, and was probably pretty happy you all showed, even if for a few minutes, nothing wrong w/ that. After all, not all of us knows one's schedule for the next day or so, you may have early morning appointments, etc.

Congrats on the 4-year anniversary, this is a major milestone. I only wish that those in my family that partook of the alcohol kept control and they too, went clean. They didn't and it unfortunately killed them (or helped kill them, the drinking).

Thanks for the update and I wish you the best!

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I've never enjoyed parties since I quit drinking over 25 years ago Walleye Jun 2022 #1
I don't have a problem with parties.. but.. notKeith Jun 2022 #17
Just for giggles, I just retook the Myers-Briggs test.. notKeith Jun 2022 #21
This message was self-deleted by its author no_hypocrisy Jun 2022 #2
I think a half hour from a neighbor is just about right. secondwind Jun 2022 #3
I practice mentally with music, chill pills, copy the mannerisms of easy going friends. Tetrachloride Jun 2022 #4
Haven't been to a party since 1977. Chipper Chat Jun 2022 #5
So it was a pot party? dem4decades Jun 2022 #6
nah. beer. Chipper Chat Jun 2022 #24
Parties... I always felt pressure that people were expecting stuff from me. Attention is on me... 3Hotdogs Jun 2022 #7
To juice socializing, find a few short, obscure if corny jokes and practice them out loud bucolic_frolic Jun 2022 #8
My 'memory hook' to remember names is RicROC Jun 2022 #9
This message was self-deleted by its author RicROC Jun 2022 #10
Like parties or not, it's great that you have neighbors that are inclusive. FailureToCommunicate Jun 2022 #11
You did fine PJMcK Jun 2022 #12
I did the exact same thing a few weeks ago. ECL213 Jun 2022 #13
everyone has llashram Jun 2022 #14
This message was self-deleted by its author notKeith Jun 2022 #15
A half hour for some neighbors kids grad party? PLENTY! You are good to go! cayugafalls Jun 2022 #16
During covid? NOPE Ferrets are Cool Jun 2022 #18
You sound just like me.... paleotn Jun 2022 #19
My wife absolutely loves chitchatting bif Jun 2022 #22
That helps a ton. Reminds me of my sister-in-law. paleotn Jun 2022 #23
I do enjoy (or did) getting w/ people, and you don't really have to drink (alcohol that is, I can, SWBTATTReg Jun 2022 #20
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