Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News Editorials & Other Articles General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

no_hypocrisy

(55,819 posts)
1. My father was emotionally and psychologically abusive.
Sat Jul 4, 2026, 01:02 PM
4 hrs ago

My theory is that I was selected as a family scapegoat for two reasons:

1. A warning to my mother if she stepped out of line; and
2. To train me to accept abuse if/when I ever got married.

Well, I fought my father every chance I could, even before my adolescence. And it infuriated and frustrated him.

And I never married. My mother had bachelors and masters degrees. She was more than intelligent compared to most of the wives of the Fifties. And she was more or less held hostage in a very bad marriage. She once thought of leaving, but feared her disadvantage of being given minimal alimony and perhaps losing custody of the kids.

Recommendations

4 members have recommended this reply (displayed in chronological order):

My father was emotionally and psychologically abusive. no_hypocrisy 4 hrs ago #1
"mad money" rampartd 4 hrs ago #2
Wow. That takes me back to the 1950s. Ritabert 3 hrs ago #3
I remember well... 2naSalit 32 min ago #4
Latest Discussions»Alliance Forums»Feminists»VANISHED Ways 1950s Women...»Reply #1