Feminists

the correct way to go, but unlike EarlG, I believe that posting on DU at all is an act of feeding trolls.

There were a spate of questions recently in ATA where DUers asked whether their DU contributions were used for DI. The admins kept saying that they are two different companies. However, the two companies profit the same people, and those are the people who refuse to support in any way the women who support them by posting in their sites.

All these posts lately that describe the mechanism of domestic abuse seem to have eerie parallels with the treatment of women on DU: the women keep thinking and hoping that things will get better, and genuinely have affection for the abuser. The abuser says things like "why do you make me abuse you?" which is the same sentiment as what EarlG said in that linked comment. The women are told they deserve what they get and it is their job to take what the man dishes out (which is not that far off from "all these abusive posts against feminists are useful because the rest of us learn so much, and it is your job to take the abuse for our benefit.&quot The abuser gives a lot of lip service, but refuses to make any changes. The abused women think about leaving but never do. Which is how things go on DU.

In the past, I gave the admins as much benefit of the doubt as I could. I assumed their decisions were made from a profit motive, and women on their sites were simply collateral damage to that. Now I see I was mistaken, and they are holders of the very attitudes we are trying to fight. I am pretty sickened that I ever contributed money to them.